Lippincott's Magazine of Popular Literature and Science, Vol. 12, No. 32, November, 1873Various
Science
Lippincott's Magazine of Popular Literature and Science, Vol. 12, No. 32, November, 1873
Various
Literature, Modern -- 19th century -- Periodicals; Science -- Periodicals
And now for the introductions. There is no getting on at all in a
private dance, nor indeed in any London society, without introductions.
Society rigidly requires of every man that he submit to the process as a
preliminary to addressing even a remark anent the weather to a
lady--much more before asking of her such a favor as a dance. But a man
who goes much to dances soon grows somewhat wary in this matter. He
learns to shun the overtures of the seemingly benevolent people--above
all, the master of the house--who proffer willingness to introduce him
to partners; for has not experience taught him that such folk are always
actuated by the desire (laudable enough, perhaps) of procuring partners
for some lady friend whose personal attractions are not, by themselves,
calculated to bring them? No, he prefers, the selfish wretch! to seek
and choose for himself--first, to look about and determine to which of
all the strange faces in the room he would wish to be introduced, and
then to set about finding out means of getting introduced to them.
It is a misfortune that the present habits of society, placing the fair
sex in the position of waiting to be asked by would-be male partners, as
well for dances as for life-partnerships, do not at the same time, in
the former as they do in the latter case, countenance their meeting
undesired proposals with a direct negative. It is fully admitted in
principle, and is said to be experienced in practice, that a lady may
reply to the question, "Will you marry me?" with a conclusive "No." But
the same answer, given to the stock ball-room interrogatory, "May I have
the (honor/pleasure) of a dance?" would be conventionally reprobated as
discourteous, and is practically impossible. The natural consequence is,
that the fair answerer is driven to all manner of distressing--sometimes
almost amusingly distressing--shifts and equivocations, merely to escape
the necessity of dancing with men whom she doesn't wish to dance with,
but who insist on asking her to do so. Sometimes she salves her
conscience by the device of arranging beforehand with a brother or
other near relative that she shall be understood to be engaged to him
for every and any dance that may be asked for by a person undesired. At
other times she will have mislaid her programme, or "think mamma will
want to be gone" before the proposed dance is reached. To young ladies
thus embarrassed a practice which has recently gained some hold at
private balls, of supplying no dance-programmes at all, has afforded a
novel and most happy relief. For when one man has asked for (and perhaps
fondly noted on his ample cuff) "the third dance from now," another "the
second galop," and a third "the fourth round," she is so genuinely
bewildered as to how many and what dances she is and is not engaged for
that it becomes alike easy to checkmate proposals by the reply
"engaged," and at any time in the course of the evening to give an
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