Woman—through a man's eyeglassSalaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
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Woman—through a man's eyeglass
Salaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
Single women; Wives -- Anecdotes; Women -- Anecdotes; Women -- Social and moral questions
And she submitted to all this humiliation, she allowed herself and
her children to be dragged down lower and lower, she offended beyond
reconciliation the rich, proud relatives who could have helped her,
because they expressed their just resentment against her husband and
their indignation at her obstinate martyrdom, all simply for love
of this man who was quite unworthy of it. She had never heard of
Individualism; the thought of a woman having a free soul, with an
independent life of her own to work out, had probably never entered
her head. She was one of those women who think that the whole duty of
woman is towards her husband, be he good or bad, tender or cruel,
devoted or selfish. That he has broken his marriage vows does not
relieve her of the obligation of hers—she must be faithful to the end.
And so Mrs. Meek suppressed her independent womanhood for the sake
of a worthless man. There was no question of clinging to an ideal of
her girlhood, that was broken long since, and Mrs. Meek was not an
idealising woman; she saw things as they were, but she thought it
was her duty to try and soften their brutality. If there was little
of the old love remaining, there was the old slavish devotion, and
the submission of her individuality to his caprice. She retained the
mediæval notion that the husband was the wife’s lord and master, and
when misfortunes, albeit of his own making, came upon him and involved
her, she considered that it was all the more obligatory for her to
unself herself, so as to give him the more consideration. She had
joined her lot to his for better or for worse, and, as she would not
have thought of leaving him had it been better, she would not desert
him when fortune was at its worst. Let him humiliate her as he would,
she would be a martyr in the sacred cause of wifely devotion.
There are some women who must be martyrs at all cost, if not in
earnest, then in make-believe. Generally there is more folly and
egotism in their martyrdom than high-minded purpose, but sometimes
there is a touch of the genuine angel. Now, I never met a more
serious martyr than Mrs. Marshall Meek, and if there was a good deal
of the fool about her self-sacrifice, there was something, too, of
the angel—no ordinary woman could have been so absolutely without
resentment with so much just cause. Whatever she suffered, and Heaven
knows she must have suffered as few women in her station of life are
called upon to suffer, never was she known to utter complaint. No
indignity, no deprivation, could provoke her to reproach her husband;
and when I have heard her sons and daughters grumble at their position,
she would always chide them gently, and expect pity for their father’s
misfortunes. For herself she sought none. God in His own good time
would pity her, she would say, till then it was her duty to submit
patiently.
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