For among the dozen or so ductless glands, which Berman[16] has called an “interlocking directorate” of all the human activities, is the interstitial gland which places in circulation in the blood a hormone that vitalizes all the secretions of all the other glands, and which requires for its own perfect working the concomitant and synchronous perfect working of the homologous gland in the mate, in the other demi-human of the complete social unit. In other words perfect physiological health is secured in no better way than by marrying provided marriage is complete marriage and not merely a “Platonic” or business relation. From these considerations it is evident that as motives for action that leads to happiness, the erotic instincts (if we can succeed in extracting their ore from the mine of our unconscious and refining it from the dross of egoistic-social accretions) are infinitely superior to the egoistic-social. CHAPTER V THE LOVE EPISODE § 64 From the earliest ages seers and poets have glorified Love. The Bible says God is Love. Love as the perfect erotic control of the wife by the husband will be a strange concept to some minds that have been accustomed to the theory that woman is the Queen of Love, and to the ideas of men brought up under the Madonna influence. This control is indeed the opposite of the attitude that many husbands have adopted (or in which they have been trained) toward their wives, to whom they act as they would toward idealized mothers, not of their own children, but of themselves. A conviction derived from intimate knowledge of the marital relations of many people forces the conclusion that this current attitude not only is a false one, but is also one that gradually renders a husband impotent to take the part which a true male should take, in the highest type of human mating. Love is the work of art of an entire lifetime. The calf love of the adolescent, the adoration of the betrothed and the first passionate outburst of the honeymoon are but preludes or overtures to an opera or drama that should continue as long as the two partners live together, and in which the husband is the protagonist. § 65 To denote the highest type of special scientific student of the art of love, the term _erotologist_ is suggested in preference to the word sexologist, which would imply the study of only the physical side of _sex_. If a modern erotologist can tell us that husbands using toward their wives one form of behaviour are themselves unhappy, and have too many children, or too few, we should certainly be broad-minded enough to admit that the chances are, we ourselves shall be unhappy if we do the same things in the same way.