While admitting that Frenchmen have brought much grace along with the
continual gratification of the senses into the diversions of outdoor
existence, it is questionable if they enjoy them really as the English
do. We cannot easily conceive a French Minister shaking off the cares of
office to refresh himself with all the gusto of a schoolboy on the golf
links. Taste and national character would be much more likely to lead
him to seek change and distraction in that temple of fame, the _salon_.
Here we may picture him talking with the consummate and exquisite ease
of his race. Their sports, like their clubs, the French have borrowed
from England, and, according to the point of view, have improved or
disfigured these noble institutions; but their _salon_ is their own. No
other race has even tried to compete with them on this famous ground,
for the reason that no other race has the art of general conversation.
You must have the instinct of good conversation, be yourself something
of an artist in it, be able to bring an attention, a readiness of wit
and intelligence and information, demanded in this national pastime.
The French speak well because they know how to listen so well. With
them there is no such thing as talking down the company. The deference
given is duly claimed and granted, and the first thing that strikes you
in a _salon_ is the complete absence among the men of that vexatious
British habit of lounging. Frenchmen in their families do not lounge
as Englishmen lounge in strange drawing-rooms. I once heard a Russian
woman who had sojourned in both countries say, _Les Anglais n’ont pas de
tenue_. And this is true. An Englishman who counts himself a gentleman
will put his feet on railway cushions when women are present, he will
sprawl before women in rooms, keep his hands in his trousers pockets
while talking to them, nurse his foot at an afternoon call—in a word, do
everything but sit on the chairs or seats of civilisation in a simple and
inoffensive attitude. Not one of these things have I ever seen Frenchmen
do, even in intimacy. Their correctness in a drawing-room is scrupulous.
Familiarity is the very last thing they suggest, though the house you
meet them at may be one they have been in the habit of visiting once a
week at least for many years. Englishwomen to whom I have remarked this
peculiar characteristic of their countrymen retort that the behaviour of
Frenchmen in dining-rooms is as inferior, compared with that of their
compatriots, as ever could be the behaviour of Englishmen, tested by the
same standard, in drawing-rooms. I willingly admit the accusation, and I
confess I should find both races more delightful if each borrowed the
best of the other, and so mended their ways and became perfect. I do not
care on which side the lesson begins, if only Frenchmen will eat as well
as Englishmen, and Englishmen will imitate the perfect “tone” of the
Frenchman in a drawing-room. The niceties observed by each in its sphere
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