Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a LadyChapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Religion
Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a Lady
Chapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Women -- Education; Young women -- Conduct of life
ridiculous contortions of body, or by feigned sentiments and unnatural
manners. There is no art so mean, which this mean passion will not
descend to for its gratification--no creature so insignificant, whose
incense it will not gladly receive. Far from despising others, the vain
man will court them with the most assiduous adulation; in hopes, by
feeding their vanity, to induce them to supply the craving wants of his
own. He will put on the guise of benevolence, tenderness, and
friendship, where he feels not the least degree of kindness, in order to
prevail on good-nature and gratitude to like and to commend him; but if,
in any particular case, he fancies the airs of insolence and contempt
may succeed better, he makes no scruple to assume them; though so
awkwardly, that he still appears to depend on the breath of the person
he would be thought to despise. Weak and timid natures seldom venture to
try this last method; and, when they do, it is without the assurance
necessary to carry it on with success: but a bold and confident mind
will oftener endeavour to command and extort admiration than to court
it. As women are more fearful than men, perhaps this may be one reason
why they are more vain than proud; whilst the other sex are oftener
proud than vain. It is, I suppose, from some opinion of a certain
greatness of mind accompanying the one vice rather than the other, that
many will readily confess their pride, nay, and even be proud of their
pride, whilst every creature is ashamed of being convicted of vanity.
You see, however, that the end of both is the same, though pursued by
different means; or, if it differs, it is in the importance of the
subject. Whilst men are proud of power, of wealth, dignity, learning, or
abilities, young women are usually ambitious of nothing more than to be
admired for their persons, their dress, or their most trivial
accomplishments. The homage of men is their grand object; but they only
desire them to be in love with their persons, careless how despicable
their minds appear, even to these their pretended adorers. I have known
a woman so vain as to boast of the most disgraceful addresses; being
contented to be thought meanly of, in points the most interesting to her
honour, for the sake of having it known, that her person was attractive
enough to make a man transgress the bounds of respect due to her
character, which was not a vicious one, if you except this intemperate
vanity. But this passion too often leads to the most ruinous actions,
always corrupts the heart, and, when indulged, renders it, perhaps, as
displeasing in the sight of the Almighty, as those faults which find
least mercy from the world; yet, alas! it is a passion so prevailing, I
had almost said universal, in our sex, that it requires all the efforts
of reason, and all the assistance of grace, totally to subdue it.
Religion is indeed the only effectual remedy for this evil. If our
hearts are not dedicated to God, they will in some way or other be
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