Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a LadyChapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Religion
Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a Lady
Chapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Women -- Education; Young women -- Conduct of life
He, who "requires truth in the inward parts," will not excuse our
self-deception; for he has commanded us to examine ourselves diligently,
and has given us such rules as can never mislead us, if we desire the
truth, and are willing to see our faults, in order to correct them. But
this is the point in which we are defective; we are desirous to gain our
own approbation, as well as that of others, at a cheaper rate than that
of being really what we ought to be; and we take pains to persuade
ourselves that we are that which we indolently admire and approve.
There is nothing in which this self-deception is more notorious than in
what regards sentiment and feeling. Let a vain young woman be told that
tenderness and softness is the peculiar charm of the sex, that even
their weakness is lovely, and their fears becoming, and you will
presently observe her grow so tender as to be ready to weep for a fly;
so fearful, that she starts at a feather; and so weak-hearted, that the
smallest accident quite overpowers her. Her fondness and affection
become fulsome and ridiculous; her compassion grows contemptible
weakness; and her apprehensiveness the most abject cowardice: for, when
once she quits the direction of Nature, she knows not where to stop, and
continually exposes herself by the most absurd extremes.
Nothing so effectually defeats its own ends as this kind of affectation:
for though warm affections and tender feelings are beyond measure
amiable and charming, when perfectly natural, and kept under the due
control of reason and principle, yet nothing is so truly disgusting as
the affectation of them, or even the unbridled indulgence of such as are
real.
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