Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a LadyChapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Religion
Letters on the Improvement of the Mind, Addressed to a Lady
Chapone, Mrs. (Hester)
Women -- Education; Young women -- Conduct of life
Another point, on which the heart is apt to deceive itself, is
generosity: we cannot bear to suspect ourselves of base and ungenerous
feelings, therefore we let them work without attending to them, or we
endeavour to find out some better motive for those actions, which really
flow from envy and malignity. Before you flatter yourself that you are a
generous benevolent person, take care to examine whether you are really
glad of every advantage and excellence, which your friends and
companions possess, though they are such as you are yourself deficient
in. If your sister or friend makes a greater proficiency than yourself
in any accomplishment, which you are in pursuit of, do you never wish to
stop her progress, instead of trying to hasten your own?
The boundaries between virtuous emulation and vicious envy are very
nice, and may be easily mistaken. The first will awaken your attention
to your own defects, and excite your endeavours to improve; the last
will make you repine at the improvements of others, and wish to rob them
of the praise they have deserved. Do you sincerely rejoice when your
sister is enjoying pleasure or commendation, though you are at the same
time in disagreeable or mortifying circumstances? Do you delight to see
her approved and beloved, even by those who do not pay you equal
attention? Are you afflicted and humbled, when she is found to be in
fault, though you yourself are remarkably clear from the same offence?
If your heart assures you of the affirmative to these questions, then
may you think yourself a kind sister and a generous friend: for you must
observe, my dear, that scarcely any creature is so depraved as not to be
capable of kind affections in some circumstances. We are all naturally
benevolent, when no selfish interest interferes, and where no advantage
is to be given up: we can all pity distress, when it lies complaining at
our feet, and confesses our superiority and happier situation: but I
have seen the sufferer himself become the object of envy and ill-will,
as soon as his fortitude and greatness of mind had begun to attract
admiration, and to make the envious person feel the superiority of
virtue above good fortune.
To take sincere pleasure in the blessings and excellencies of others, is
a much surer mark of benevolence than to pity their calamities: and you
must always acknowledge yourself ungenerous and selfish, whenever you
are less ready to "rejoice with them that do rejoice," than to "weep
with them that weep." If ever your commendations of others are forced
from you, by the fear of betraying your envy--or if ever you feel a
secret desire to mention something that may abate the admiration given
them, do not try to conceal the base disposition from yourself, since
that is not the way to cure it.
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