Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
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Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
"I leave the dismal beginning of a letter, intended to excite
your compassion for my suffering under the confinement of a
cold, and it would be rather _mal apropos_, after what has
passed, to proceed in due form to give an account of myself
during the long period since I last saw you. But in order to
preserve the unity of time and place, I must first revert to
the accident which brought us together so opportunely. I will
not pretend to defend the prudence of the action, but
acknowledge it was rather the impulse of strong desire to give
some one a little pleasure, than the sober dictate of reason,
and I felt that, in M----'s solitary state, she would be glad
to see any one. I know it was wrong in one point of view, but
right in another. I was rewarded for a severe sickness, as far
as regarded my own sufferings, should one have ensued. I had a
very pleasant ride, and became more acquainted with J---- than
I could in any other way. I was agreeably surprised to find in
his conversation so much depth of thought and knowledge of
mankind. I am glad of any opportunity to extend my acquaintance
with character, in its infinite variety. There is no human
knowledge, I am persuaded, which has so great an influence on
our happiness. We learn to estimate ourselves more justly, and
in the formation of our own characters we are enabled to
discriminate between right and wrong more accurately; for in
nothing are we more liable to confound them, than as respects
our own feelings and motives. Is it not wilful blindness that
leads us so often to ridicule in others what we unconsciously
practise ourselves? Why are we not as cautious to ascertain the
motives of the conduct of others as of our own? We console
ourselves, when we have done any thing which to the eyes of the
world appears weak and foolish, with the thought that our
motives are good, and with a consciousness of having done what
was right. All else is of little importance; but did we believe
that our friends were as much influenced by appearances, in
their judgment of us, as we are in ours of them, I doubt if the
approving smile of conscience would always compensate for the
loss of the good opinion of those we love. Let us not, then,
judge solely by the conduct of any what are their real
characters; peculiar circumstances may prevent even our most
intimate friends from disclosing to us their particular reasons
for every action; but in that case, if it be a tried friend,
it were surely a proof of friendship to believe that it is at
least felt by him to be right. And with regard to people in
general, let charity have its perfect work, and let us think
all are free from deliberate faults, till we have good reason
to suppose otherwise. This is, perhaps, if understood
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