11. MASCULINE ATTENTION.--No woman is entitled to any more attention than her loveliness and ladylike conduct will command. Those who are most pleasing will receive the most attention, and those who desire more should aspire to acquire more by cultivating those graces and virtues which ennoble woman, but no lady should lower or distort her own true ideal, or smother and crucify her conscience, in order to please any living man. A good man will admire a good woman, and deceptions cannot long be concealed. Her show of dry goods or glitter of jewels cannot long cover up her imperfections or deceptions. 12. PURITY.--Purity of purpose will solve all social problems. Let all stand on this exalted sexual platform, and teach every man just how to treat the female sex, and every woman how to behave towards the masculine; and it will incomparably adorn the manners of both, make both happy in each other, and mutually develop each other's sexuality and humanity. [Illustration] {63} Practical Rules on Table Manners. [Illustration] 1. Help ladies with a due appreciation; do not overload the plate of any person you serve. Never pour gravy on a plate without permission. It spoils the meat for some persons. 2. Never put anything by force upon any one's plate. It is extremely ill-bred, though extremely common, to press one to eat of anything. 3. If at dinner you are requested to help any one to sauce or gravy, do not pour it over the meat or vegetables, but on one side of them. Never load down a person's plate with anything. 4. As soon as you are helped, begin to eat, or at least begin to occupy yourself with what you have before you. Do not wait till your neighbors are served--a custom that was long ago abandoned. 5. Should you, however, find yourself at a table where they have the old-fashioned steel forks, eat with your knife, as the others do, and do not let it be seen that you have any objection to doing so. 6. Bread should be broken. To butter a large piece of bread and then bite it, as children do, is something the knowing never do. {64} 7. In eating game or poultry do not touch the bones with your fingers. To take a bone in the fingers for the purpose of picking it, is looked upon as being very inelegant. 8. Never use your own knife or fork to help another. Use rather the knife or fork of the person you help. 9. Never send your knife or fork, or either of them, on your plate when you send for second supply. 10. Never turn your elbows out when you use your knife and fork. Keep them close to your sides. 11. Whenever you use your fingers to convey anything to your mouth or to remove anything from the mouth, let it be the fingers of the left hand. 12. Tea, coffee, chocolate and the like are drank from the cup and never from the saucer. 13. In masticating your food, keep your mouth shut; otherwise you will make a noise that will be very offensive to those around you.