Christian literature for children; Women -- Social and moral questions; Young women -- Conduct of life
Having so many virtues incident to her condition, and enjoying such
opportunities to do an amount of good, and of course to secure a degree
of happiness, denied to those in married life, why should an individual
repine at this lot? Single women, it is well known, are sometimes
envious, querulous, discontented, and restless. "Who can shew us any
good in our state?" ask some. "Providence made us, like the rest of our
sex, for love, yet we are doomed to be indifferent. It is our fate not
to be loved."
In the agony of despair such array themselves, perhaps to old age, in
attractive dresses and a profusion of jewelry, and affect the air of
young ladies. But these views and practices are founded in error.
Reflect upon the case, and you will see, that it is no more a law of God
that your sex in general should love and be loved, and should marry,
than it is that some of their number should remain single. She, who thus
considers, is prepared to inquire whether she herself may not possibly
belong to that class, and to be content in that condition, should
circumstances seem to ordain her for it.
The advice of an English lady on this point seems peculiarly pertinent.
"Let women," says she, "of a certain age beware of the affectation of
youth, if they would avoid the shipwreck of their respectability and
character. As the loveliness of girlhood fades from their cheeks, and
the liquid brilliancy of youth departs from their eyes, let them make
unto themselves charms which neither the rust nor moth of time can
corrupt; let the warmth of goodness yield its gentle tinting to their
cheek, and let tears of tenderness, of mercy, of loving-kindness, make
their eyes moist with those beauties which will not be destroyed, but
perfected hereafter. We must all fade, but it is in our power to
exchange our charms. Keeping far from us envyings, strife, jealousy,
evil-speaking, let us, as our days increase, improve in wisdom and good
deeds; caring for the young, comforting the old, and rendering our home
the throne of domestic happiness."
There are two things requisite, I believe, however, to the enjoyment of
its best effects, in a single state. The lady, who proposes to herself
this destination, should cultivate her Mind. A good education prepares
one for any fortune, or condition of life. She, who has stores of
knowledge and a well-balanced intellect, will find herself possessed of
unfailing resources, both of improvement and happiness. It is the
ignorant, those whose thoughts feed on vacuity, and who, through the
want of mental culture, dwell incessantly on degrading subjects, that
suffer in the single state.
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