shaven heads! Neat and well dressed, with pleasing face and figure,
perhaps too consciously demure, they strike an attractive note in the
complex harmonies of modern India. The system by which they are married
is hardly elevating and is opposed not only to the ideals but also to
the commandments of the sacred texts; but a commercial class cannot
get away from its own limitations. It is at least a great deal gained
that it should be alleviated by a sensible appreciation of life and joy
and by a degree of freedom which, though not of the highest and inmost
kind, is more humanizing and liberal than the negatives of material
self-denial. Self-control, control, that is, of and by the inner self
in harmony with ultimate nature, is no doubt the concomitant of the
highest liberty; but any liberty, even any licence, is better than the
denial of the actual living self.
[Illustration: BHATIA LADY]
In the rich province of Gujarát, the home of so large a proportion
of the merchants of India, there is a festival which embodies in its
observance much of the inner feeling of the Indian woman. During the
rains, for one waxing moon, the days are sacred to that Goddess, who
represents the all-pervading energy of nature, the spouse of Shiva,
the Great God, the ultimate Destroyer. During these days the maidens
of middle-class Gujarát worship the Goddess with an eye fixed upon the
attainment of the perfect husband. The little girls go in groups and
bathe and pray, and they make the vow that is the Vow of Life. They may
be as young as six or seven or eight, but year after year they renew
the vow till they are married. Throughout the day they have to sit in
a darkened room, reflecting upon the Goddess and upon the supreme boon
of a good husband, but at times resting their minds by nursery tales
or songs or innocent games with cards and dice. Then every morning
they bathe again in the pond or river, where rival groups of girls
make jokes upon each other and laugh and play. The many songs are the
most touching part of the whole festival. And these songs represent a
marriage of free choice, in which the girl chooses a husband from her
suitors. How different from the present practice! Year after year,
till they are married, they sing these songs. And who shall say how
far this dream of choice may remain to mould their actions, even after
the forced marriage that awaits them? The need of marriage at least,
its supreme value to a woman’s life, that is always before their eyes
from early childhood; and marriage is bound up with religion, with
the personal gifts of the divine and happy wife of the Greatest God.
But in the very songs, sanctioned by the goddess, the cry is always
for the chosen mate, the giver of love and happiness. Little wonder
if at times the grown girl, now become conscious, learns to know the
difference between the husband selected under social conventions by
her parents for his worldly circumstance and the man who, unsuitable
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