Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-trainingPuller, Edwin Seward
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Your boy and his training : $b A practical treatise on boy-training
Puller, Edwin Seward
Boys; Child rearing
doing tricks which the gang had taught him. Then they added more fowls
to their collection which proved to be the forerunner of a successful
poultry yard from which they made a profit by selling eggs and chickens.
A boy in an Iowa city, rejoicing in a superior physique but lacking
the brains to use it wisely, had bullied, beaten, and terrorized
the smaller boys of his acquaintance in spite of parental commands,
reproof, and repeated chastisements. A continuation of his brutality
finally landed him in the Juvenile Court, the judge of which was
sufficiently versed in boy-psychology to attempt the experiment of
making him a “boy-policeman” decorated with a tin star, authorizing
him to preserve order among the boys of his neighborhood and especially
charging him with the duty of protecting the smaller boys from the
assaults of the larger. From that time forward, the bully was prepared
to “punch the head off’n any feller wot licked a kid.” It is needless
to say that there were no more assaults on small boys in that locality.
Suggestion had diverted the exercise of his physical prowess from
unlawful into lawful channels.
James ----, age 15, was changed from a prodigal to a thrifty boy
through a plan for saving suggested and encouraged by his father who
opened a bank account in his son’s name and offered to add a dollar for
every dollar earned by his son. It proved to be a tremendous incentive
to industry as well as to thrift.
The foregoing incidents furnish typical illustrations of the
application of the suggestive method of training as distinguished from
the repressive method; and it may be applied either to the individual
or to the group with equally good results. The mental and physical
energy ordinarily expended in various forms of lawlessness can be
directed, unconsciously, into fields of economic and ethical value by
the application of suitable suggestions.
Negation arouses the spirit of combat; and obedience under these
conditions tends to inspire a feeling of surrender and defeat whose
influence on character is obviously prejudicial.
A father once said, “I have never commanded my son _not_ to do a thing.
Instead, I have suggested that I would prefer him to do the other.”
In this way, conflict of wills was avoided and the youth was required
to make a voluntary choice between two courses in which the father’s
preference invariably turned the balance in the desired direction.
On one such occasion the boy replied, “Dad, I wish you would tell me
I _cannot_ do it and then I would go and do it to show you I can; but
when you tell me that it would hurt you, I just can’t do it.”
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