Possibly it may sound a trifle absurd to say that from the first the
child should have the habit of obedience implanted, yet this is no
absurdity, but a serious and important fact. At an astonishingly early
age the infant endeavors to pit its small will against that of its
seniors, and the initial step in revolt is promptly followed by others
unless the attempt is checked at once.
Neither time nor place is sufficient here to go into the reasons why
the training of a child in obedience, even at the cost of suffering
and punishment, is not the exercise over the weak of the tyranny of
the strong, but the display of superior wisdom for the benefit of the
inexperienced. It is enough to remind those who think that a child
should be allowed to grow up naturally, unrestrained by rule and
severity, when severity is required to enforce discipline, that all
through life the human being must conform to constituted authority
as exemplified in the laws of health, of the state, of teachers and
employers, of morality, of religion. In view of this the sooner the
child learns to defer to those in whose charge it is the better for it
later on, the less cruel the lessons life holds in store for it.
Apart from this there can be no doubt that the well-trained child is
actually happier than the one with no law but its own whim. Also it is
much pleasanter company than the self-willed, undisciplined infant who
follows its own sweet will regardless of the comfort or preference of
others.
The same kind of regimen established for a child in babyhood should
be pursued when it grows older and begins to share more actively in
the life of the household. The mistaken custom of permitting a child
to keep the same hours, eat the same diet, and follow practically the
same life as its elders cannot be sufficiently condemned. The habit of
going to bed early after a light meal, of having the heaviest repast
in the middle of the day, of partaking of such food as is particularly
suited to the needs of a growing child, of being debarred rich and
indigestible articles of diet, of having postponed until more advanced
years exciting amusements and pursuits instead of being hurried into
them while hardly out of infancy, should all be enforced. A child is
not a miniature man or woman, but an immature human being who must
develop naturally, as plants grow, and is wronged by being forced
into premature bloom or fruition, mentally or emotionally as much as
physically.
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