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A girl's life eighty years ago : $b Selections from the letters of Eliza Southgate Bowne
Bowne, Eliza Southgate
Bowne, Eliza Southgate, 1783-1809; United States -- Social life and customs -- 1783-1865
its pleasures, and those who quit the busy scenes of life, disgusted by
the duplicity or ingratitude of the world, or oppressed by the weight of
accumulated misfortune—carry with them feelings and sentiments which
cannot be reciprocated. Solitary happiness I have no idea of, ’tis only
in the delightful sympathies of friendship, similarity of sentiments,
that genuine happiness can be enjoyed. Your mind is cultivated and
enlarged, your sentiments delicate and refined, you could not expect to
find many with whom you could converse on a perfect equality,—or rather
many whose sentiments could assimilate with yours. Were I a man, I
should think it cowardly to bury myself in solitude,—nay, I should be
unwilling to confess I felt myself unable to preserve my virtue where
there were temptations to destroy it, there is no merit in being
virtuous when there is no struggle to preserve that virtue. ’Tis in the
midst of temptations and allurements that the active and generous
virtues must be exerted in their full force. One virtuous action where
there were temptations and delusions to surmount would give more delight
to my own heart, more real satisfaction than a whole life spent in more
negative goodness, he must be base indeed who can voluntarily act wrong
when no allurement draws him from the path of virtue. You say you never
dip’t much into the pleasures of _high life_ and therefore should have
but little to regret on that score. In the choice of life one ought to
consult their own dispositions and inclinations, their own powers and
talents. We all have a preference to some particular mode of life, and
we surely ought to endeavor to arrive at that which will more probably
ensure us most happiness. I have often thought what profession I should
choose were I a man. I might then think very differently from what I do
now, yet I have always thought if I felt conscious of possessing
brilliant talents, the _law_ would be my choice. Then I might hope to
arrive at an eminence which would be gratifying to my feelings. I should
then hope to be a public character, respected and admired,—but unless I
was convinced I possessed the talents which would distinguish me as a
speaker I would be anything rather than a lawyer;—from the dry sameness
of such employments as the business of an office all my feelings would
revolt, but to be an eloquent speaker would be the delight of my heart.
I thank Heaven I was _born_ a woman. I have now only patiently to wait
till some clever fellow shall take a fancy to me and place me in a
situation, I am determined to make the best of it, let it be what it
will. We ladies, you know, possess that “sweet pliability of temper”
that disposes us to enjoy any situation, and we must have no choice in
these things till we find what is to be our destiny, then we must
consider it the best in the world. But remember, I desire to be thankful
I am not a man. I should not be content with moderate abilities—nay, I
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