Nevertheless, after every allowance is made, the custom of purchasing wives bears the indelible stamp of barbarism. Like polygyny, which it so often accompanies, it is an offense against the feelings and the dignity of woman. Therefore, often at a relatively early period of social progress, it falls into disrepute; but while it is gradually abandoned as a thing unseemly or disgraceful, traces of it may long survive. On the one hand, as in the case of the Roman _coemptio_, the Hindu _ārsha_, the Anglo-Saxon _beweddung_, or the Jewish contract with the penny, the form of sale is present in the wedding ceremony; or, on the other hand, the bride-money, though still rendered, comes in time to be regarded as simply a compensation for the guardianship of the woman;[717] or else, passing through several intermediate stages, it is slowly transformed into a dower.[718] [717] SOHM, _Eheschliessung_, 22 ff.; KÖNIGSWARTER, _Histoire de l'organisation de la famille_, 123; and WEINHOLD, _Deutsche Frauen_, I, 320, hold this view. But the point is disputed and will be recurred to in another chapter. [718] In general, on the decay of wife-purchase, see WESTERMARCK, _op. cit._, 402-16, who gives the fullest and most detailed account; POST, _Familienrecht_, 173-81, who discusses the stages of decline. In the first stage of decline the bride-price appears as a nominal compensation, out of proportion to the real value of the girl. It usually consists of presents to the wife's parents or relatives, and sometimes these are scarcely distinguishable from the "wooing-gifts" already mentioned; while later it may degenerate into a mere symbol or become a sportive social observance whose meaning is entirely forgotten.[719] Again, among a large number of peoples, custom requires that a part, sometimes all, of the gifts constituting the price, or their equivalent, shall be returned to the bridegroom or his family; and it is significant that special care is sometimes taken, as among the Indians of Oregon, "not to turn over the same horses or the same articles."[720] With other peoples a part or the whole of the purchase price comes to the bride herself. Either the father turns it over as a marriage portion, or it is paid to her directly by the bridegroom. In the latter case, as Westermarck observes, it is often difficult "to make out whether the presents obtained from the bridegroom formed originally a part of the bride-price or were only a means of gaining her own consent."[721] One step more, and we reach the stage of development in which the father provides his daughters with a dotal portion out of his own substance.[722]