That the soul as well as the body of the newly married, in their first love episode, should be inexplicable and unreservedly “blended with the only other soul and body in all the world for him” certainly requires a mental ante-nuptial preparation that has rarely been attained in the past. It implies the belief on the man’s part that the woman should have _from the first_ exactly the same true physical and psychical ecstasy that he expects himself. How many men think that? It must be admitted, however, as has been indicated above, that the woman’s erotic development progresses, and that in some cases it takes months and even years for it to reach its full expansion. In the meantime the hasty, anesthetic husband has lost his grip and, unconsciously unwilling to grow up with his wife, remains at his selfish, animal level. Incidentally, too, he holds his wife there; for it must be remembered that the wife’s erotic development, on which depends not merely her contentment, but the stark possibility of her becoming more than a gynecoid female, is absolutely nil, if it be not developed by her husband. This is unequivocally a one-way process. All the latent love and beauty of being and action on the woman’s part are dependent solely on the ability of her husband to unfold her. § 139 It may be argued that the woman’s erotic acme is conditioned by the prior or simultaneous emergence of the man’s. But this argument is the working out of a defence mechanism coming from the unconscious of the man. He makes this statement not because it is true but because, from an autoerotic phantasy, he wishes it were true. The statement, too, may be sincerely made by the woman, but, if it is, it is because she has heard him make it or correctly inferred from his unconscious actions its tacit existence in his mind. It is shown in another place that there is always in the man’s unconscious a phantasy that his part in the love episode will produce his wife’s erotic acme at once and without effort on his part. This phantasy amounts in some cases to an hallucination. § 140 It was said above that you cannot control what you cannot see or touch or otherwise perceive. To what you cannot see, you are blind; to what you cannot hear, you are deaf; to what you cannot smell you are—but there is no English word for that, so we have had to take a Greek word—_anosmic_. Similarly if you could not taste, touch, feel, you would be insensible. There are many more forms of insensibility than merely being knocked out in a fight. The insensibility to the penultimate one of the various phases of the love episode has been called in a woman anesthesia. In the love episode of the hasty husband there are innumerable reactions of his wife to which he is insensible, anesthetic; but which would be a revelation of supreme joy to him if he could but see them; therefore it is better that the love episodes should take place in the light rather than in the dark.