The ideal enactment of the love episode, if permitted to enter
consciousness in the proper manner, enables one to prolong it, because
this admittance of new factors into consciousness, that were all along in
the unconscious, gives a reason for stopping and taking account of the
phases of it as they occur. The most important phases are those where the
husband takes note of the effects of his being and doing upon his wife.
The hasty husband is the one who has no regard for any other’s feelings
save his own. If his own were the only ones that existed, he would of
course have no reason to retard his own erotic acme. With an insensate
spouse he might go through the love episode as often and as rapidly as he
wished.
It must be kept in mind always that there is a definite biological cause
for the slow progress of woman through the phases of the love episode—the
inescapable necessity that she shall assure herself continuously and
beyond the slightest doubt of the erotic strength of her partner.
It is probable that the women who are not slow in this progress are in a
sense degenerate, if that term have any real meaning. They would be the
ones who would not, unconsciously, of course, express that biological
need for impregnation by the strongest male, which is expressed by the
average woman in her slowness. They would tend to reproduce what might
be called a lower order of humans in which the erotic in itself, the
hypersomatically or spiritually erotic plays a much smaller part, an
order of humans that were nearer the animals than those humans who have
amplified the erotic factor.
The hasty husband, as will later be shown (§ 158), unconsciously reasons
that his own speed demonstrates his quick and masterful control over his
wife’s erotic emotions. This unconscious fallacy is made worse if the
wife has followed the doctor’s advice to simulate an erotic acme in order
to preserve the marital peace.
If the effect on her of his mere presence were so overwhelming, and if,
as soon as he embraced her, she soared into the empyrean of ecstatic
bliss, his mere embrace might have the effect at once of producing, in
her, her own erotic acme. This would, however, imply either that she
was herself weak, judged by the standard just given, or that she had
assumed, without testing, his superior strength in the erotic sphere.
This assumption is an exceedingly rare one, depending on an inference
from mere physical muscular strength, or from the fact of a great
egoistic-social reputation. In other words such a woman might think that
because her husband was or is an athlete his physical strength implies
erotic strength, or that because he was a famous man he would be a great
lover.
§ 147
The husband’s lack of erotic control based on his own lack of perception
renders him too precipitant in the love episode.
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