The case cited by Ellis (that of Mrs. Samuel Pepys, as recounted in the
famous diary) contains only the man’s side. Possibly if the lady’s side
were known it would be found that she was herself deficient in love
and that she dreaded her husband’s possibly finding a woman who could
react toward him in a more complete and satisfactory way than she could
herself, this entirely apart from the question whether or not it should
be the duty of the man to evoke such a response. She would feel unhappy
and all the more conscious if she knew it was his duty and that he had
fled from her to others where perhaps the task would be easier.
It is also insignificant that Pepys himself records: “I must here remark
that I have lain with my moher (wife) as a husband more times since this
falling out than in, I believe, twelve months before, and with more
pleasure to her than in all the time of our marriage before.” This cannot
be adduced as a proof that the jealousy aroused in the wife was the cause
of any improvement in the marital relations of the Pepyses, but that
his noting an increase in her pleasure simply indicates that because of
his own lack of imagination he had not been playing the husband’s part
for the preceding twelvemonth as he should have. His own imagination
was probably stirred by “Deb’s” propinquity; as it would not have been
had his erotic life with his wife been on the high passional level it
should. This is the only reason why a little jealousy is supposed to whet
the edge of love. If Pepys had been grounded in true love instead of a
small-minded man, flinging notes to his wife’s maid, advising her to
help him out in the lie he told his wife, he would not have failed so to
control his wife’s erotic emotions that she would have outshone any other
woman in attractiveness.
§ 183
Furthermore Ellis admits, and quotes his authorities to show, that
jealousy is “an emotion which is at its maximum among animals, among
savages, among children, in the senile, in the degenerate, and very
specially in chronic alcoholics.” He notes that the supreme artists and
masters of the human heart, who have most consummately represented the
tragedy of jealousy, clearly recognized that it is either atavistic or
pathological. Shakespeare made his Othello a barbarian, and Tolstoy made
the Pozdnischeff of his _Kreutzer Sonata_ a lunatic. But the jealous
person is above all (at least psychically) impotent and projects, on the
most likely object, his own desires, which he cannot fulfill for himself.
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