The thought that the husband is getting an egoistic-socially valuable possession by the exercise of his rights at the first love episode is therefore quite absurd. He is performing an act which is in the nature of a creation, if rightly carried out, but which is destruction if he does not himself hold his instincts under absolute control. That the love episode does not take away from woman anything that makes her poorer is indicated by the fact, noticed by Ellis and others, that woman’s erotic nature is deeper and stronger than man’s. For the development of this great erotic nature it is as absolutely necessary for her to be controlled by a man quite master of his own sex instincts, as it is necessary for an ovum to be met by a zoösperm, if it is going to develop any further than its ovum condition. At a single love episode, neither can the woman’s all be taken by a man nor can her development be completed. The first episode is only the beginning of a development, that needs the entire excess energies of her man for the rest of their joint lives. In the sections on virginity it will also appear that except in a superficial egoistic-social sense, her psychical virginity cannot always be terminated at the first love episode. § 85 The thought that she has given her all to him is worked out still further in the irrational conclusion, which comes to some men’s minds, that there may be nothing left for himself for a future occasion. Therefore he will not take all this time, so as to leave a little for next time. Possibly getting all of her at one stroke may be the root thought in Don Juanism. _Jus primæ noctis_ may have originated from the idea that the noble lord should get all there was in the vicinity to get; and he was exercising his right to own and get everything in sight. The men who cool in their affections (or whose passions cool) immediately after the possession of the persons of their love objects may be inspired by exactly this egoistic-social thought, that there is a possession that may be acquired by means of one love episode, after which the woman has no more to give. § 86 In phantasying, in his own ecstasy, the complete surrender of the woman (cf. § 158), a man may also phantasy her being exhausted, dry like an eaten orange, or, like a flower, drained of its honey by a bee; not realizing that the beginning of a woman’s love is only the beginning of an infinite growth, which he alone is able to develop for himself, and which no other man can develop for him—that, in short, a man who deserts one woman after another is simply showing an essentially perverted appetite.