But there is a much better arrangement of the love episode than that. The husband should see to it that in every episode the wife not only arrives at the utmost climax of her erotic acme before he does but that she recovers sufficiently from her ecstasy to enable her to give thereafter conscious attention to his. Where, as in a passionate honeymoon, both partners lose consciousness, so to speak, together, in every love episode, neither has the supernal joy of witnessing the ecstatic culmination of the other’s bliss. With autoerotic proclivities, pardonable in the first weeks of marital life, they close their eyes to each other, at the climax, and they sink into their own subjective feelings, after which they come to the conclusion that each has loved the other to the limit. But this is not the case. They have loved their own sensations to the limit but not each other’s. If it could be arranged that each should take turns in “taking care” of the other so that now one and now the other should first arrive at the climax, they would, it might appear to the superficial thinkers, each gain the priceless boon of seeing his or her own ecstasy reflected in the other’s. § 112 Nature has, on the contrary, so arranged it, as is obvious to all who have had any true erotic experience, that a supposition that the husband gets his acme first and the wife second, _in the same love episode_, is an impossible one; for man is so constituted as generally to be unable to continue a love episode after reaching his own erotic acme. On the other hand woman is so constituted as to be able to continue any love episode after she has herself passed the point of her own erotic acme. Therefore if the simultaneity of the ideal honeymoon, mentally autoerotic as it is in its essential nature, is to give place to truly allerotic marital behaviour, this transition can take place in only one way. It is imperative that the allerotic action be that of the husband. The wife may legitimately remain mentally autoerotic for the rest of her life. It is a marital crime for the husband to remain mentally autoerotic. That is what blasts most marriages. Simultaneity, so unanimously approved by most erotologists, is an introducing phenomenon, belonging only to the initial stages of marital life. It should give place as soon as possible to the principle of successiveness. § 113 All erotologists, on the general principle of altruism and mutuality, sympathy and responsiveness, have advocated simultaneity of acme, without realizing its mental autoerotism.