A Portraiture of Quakerism, Volume 1: Taken from a View of the Education and Discipline, Social Manners, Civil and Political Economy, Religious Principles and Character, of the Society of FriendsClarkson, Thomas
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A Portraiture of Quakerism, Volume 1: Taken from a View of the Education and Discipline, Social Manners, Civil and Political Economy, Religious Principles and Character, of the Society of Friends
Clarkson, Thomas
Society of Friends
It cannot be expected that persons, educated like the Quakers, should
assimilate much in their manners to other people. The very dress they
wear, which is so different from that of others, would give them a stiff
appearance in the eyes of the world, if nothing else could be found to
contribute towards it. Excluded also from much intercourse with the
world, and separated at a vast distance from it by the singularity of
many of their customs, they would naturally appear to others to be close
and reserved. Neither is it to be expected that those, whose spirits
are never animated by music, or enlivened by the exhibitions of the
theatre, or the diversions which others follow, would have other than
countenances that were grave. Their discipline also, which calls them so
frequently to important duties, and the dispatch of serious business,
would produce the same feature. I may observe also, that a peculiarity
of gait, which might be mistaken for awkwardness, might not unreasonably
be expected in those, who had neither learned to walk under the guidance
of a dancing, master, nor to bow under the direction of the dominion of
fashion. If those and those only are to be esteemed really polished and
courteous, who bow and scrape, and salute each other by certain
prescribed gestures, then the Quakers will appear to have contracted
much rust, and to have an indisputable right to the title of a clownish
and inflexible people.
I must observe however that these appearances, though they may be
substantial in the estimation of those who do not know them, gradually
vanish with those, who do. Their hospitality in their own houses, and
their great attention and kindness, soon force out of sight all ideas of
uncourteousness. Their freedom also soon annihilates those of stiffness
and reserve. Their manners, though they have not the polished surface of
those which are usually attached to fashionable life, are agreeable,
when known.
There is one trait in the Quaker-manners, which runs through the whole
society, as far as I have seen in their houses, and which is worthy of
mention. The Quakers appear to be particularly gratified, when those,
who visit them, ask for what they want. Instead of considering this as
rudeness or intrusion, they esteem it as a favour done them. The
circumstance of asking, on such an occasion, is to them a proof, that
there visitors feel themselves at home. Indeed they almost always desire
a stranger who has been introduced to them "to be free." This is their
usual expression. And if he assures them that he will, and if they find
him asking for what he wishes to have, you may perceive in their
countenances the pleasure, which his conduct has given them. They
consider him, when he has used this freedom, to have acted as they
express it "kindly." Nothing can be more truly polite than that conduct
to another, by which he shall be induced to feel himself as comfortably
situated, as if he were in his own house.
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