The actual proposals go by a great variety of fancy names such as free
love, trial marriage, companionate marriage. When these proposals are
examined it is evident they all take birth control as their major
premise, and then deduce from it some part or all of the logical
consequences. Companionate marriage, for example, is from the point
of view of the law, whatever it may be subjectively, nothing but
a somewhat roundabout way of saying that childless couples may be
divorced by mutual consent. It is a proposal, if not to control, then
at least to register, publicly all sexual unions, the theory being that
this public registration will abolish shame and furtiveness and give
them a certain permanence. Companionate marriage is frankly an attempt
at a compromise between marriages that are difficult to dissolve and
clandestine relationships which have no sanction whatever.
The uncompromising logic of birth control has been stated more clearly,
I think, by Mr. Bertrand Russell than by anyone else. Writing to Judge
Lindsey during the uproar about companionate marriage, Mr. Russell said:
I go further than you do: the things which your enemies say about
you would be largely true of me. My own view is that the state
and the law should take no notice of sexual relations apart from
children, and that no marriage ceremony should be valid unless
accompanied by a medical certificate of the woman’s pregnancy.
But when once there are children, I think that divorce should be
avoided except for very grave cause. I should not regard physical
infidelity as a very grave cause and should teach people that
it is to be expected and tolerated, but should not involve the
begetting of illegitimate children—not because illegitimacy is
bad in [p299] itself, but because a home with two parents is
best for children. I do not feel that the main thing in marriage
is the feeling of the parents for each other; the main thing is
cooperation in bearing children.
In this admirably clear statement there is set forth a plan for that
complete separation between the primary and secondary function of
sexual intercourse which contraception makes possible.
4. _The Use of Convention_
It is one thing, however, to recognize the full logic of birth control
and quite another thing to say that convention ought to be determined
by that logic. One might as well argue that because automobiles can be
driven at a hundred miles an hour the laws should sanction driving at
the rate of a hundred miles an hour. Birth control is a device like the
automobile, and its inherent possibilities do not fix the best uses to
be made of it.
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