London (England) -- Social life and customs -- 19th century
Most undoubtedly to win the affections of a woman and then desert her is
a crime—but it is of a character too ethereal to be touched by human law.
If the woman’s heart be shattered by the blow, no amount of
money-compensation can heal the wound, and a woman of much worth and of
the least delicacy would shrink from the publicity such cases generally
confer on all the parties interested in them. But if the principle be
admitted, that disappointment in love can be atoned for by the possession
of solid cash—if gold can heal the heart wounded by the fact that its
love has been repelled—that its confidence has been betrayed—we do not
see why the same remedy should not be within the reach of man. And yet
this notoriously is not the case. When anything of the sort is tried the
unhappy plaintiff seldom gets more than a farthing damages. Besides,
what upright, honourable man would stoop for a moment to such a thing;
and yet, in spite of all modern enlightment, we maintain that the injury
of a breach of promise on the part of a woman is as great as that on the
part of a man. In the morning of life men have been struck down by such
disappointments, and through life have been blasted as the oak by the
lightning’s stroke. With his heart gone—demoralised, the man has lived
to take a fearful revenge for the first offence, possibly to become a
cold cynic—sceptical of man’s honour and woman’s love. Yet breach of
promise cases are not resorted to by men, and we cannot congratulate our
fair friends on the fact that so many of them come into courts of law as
plaintiffs in such cases. Bachelors will fear that, after all, it is
true that—
“Maidens, like moths, are ever caught by glare,
And Mammon wins his way where seraphs might despair.”
And the result will be that while the more impetuous of us will commit
ourselves at once, and come within the clutches of law, the more cool and
cunning will excite hopes, which deferred will make sick the heart, and
inspire an affection which may exist but to torment the heart in which it
had its birth. Ay, beneath such mental grief the beauty and blessedness
of life may vanish, never to return, and yet all the while he who did the
deed may defy the power of human law.
Some letters which have recently appeared in the _Manchester Examiner_
may be taken as evidence that these breach of promise cases interfere
very materially with marriages. In the immediate neighbourhood of
Manchester the question, Why don’t the men propose? appears to have
excited considerable interest. In that busy region men fall in love and
get married, and have families, and are gathered to their fathers, just
as do the rest of her Majesty’s subjects in other parts of the United
Kingdom. But it seems the Lancashire witches are many of them still on
their parent’s hands. Paterfamilias gets anxious. Deeply revolving the
question under the signature of “A Family Man,” he sends the following
letter to the Editor of the journal alluded to—
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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