Abraham LincolnCharnwood, Godfrey Rathbone Benson, Baron
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Abraham Lincoln
Charnwood, Godfrey Rathbone Benson, Baron
Lincoln, Abraham, 1809-1865; Presidents -- United States -- Biography
There is more than the conventional reason for apology for pressing the
subject a little further. Nothing very illuminating can be said as to
the course of Lincoln's married life, but much has already been made
public about it which, though it cannot be taken as reaching to the
heart of the matter, is not properly to be dismissed as mere gossip.
Mrs. Lincoln, it is clear, had a high temper--the fact that, poor
woman! after her husband had been murdered by her side, she developed
clear symptoms of insanity, may or may not, for all we are entitled to
know, be relevant in this regard. She was much younger than her
husband, and had gone through a cruel experience for him. Moreover,
she had proper ambitions and was accustomed to proper conventional
refinements; so her husband's exterior roughness tried her sorely, not
the less we may be sure because of her real pride in him. Wife and
tailor combined could not, with any amount of money, have dressed him
well. Once, though they kept a servant then, Lincoln thought it
friendly to open the door himself in his shirt sleeves when two most
elegant ladies came to call. On such occasions, and doubtless on other
occasions of less provocation, Mrs. Lincoln's high temper was let
loose. It seems pretty certain, too, that he met her with mere
forbearance, sad patience, and avoidance of conflict. His fellow
lawyers came to notice that he stayed away from home on circuit when
all the rest of them could go home for a day or two. Fifteen years
after his wedding he himself confessed to his trouble, not disloyally,
but in a rather moving remonstrance with some one who had felt
intolerably provoked by Mrs. Lincoln. There are slight indications
that occasions of difficulty and pain to Lincoln happened up to the end
of his life. On the other hand, there are slight indications that
common love for their children helped to make the two happier, and
there are no indications at all of any approach to a serious quarrel.
All that is told us may be perfectly true and not by any means have
justified the pity that some of Lincoln's friends were ready to feel
for him. It is difficult to avoid suspecting that Lincoln's wife did
not duly like his partner and biographer, Mr. Herndon, who felt it his
duty to record so many painful facts and his own possibly too painful
impression from them. On the other side, Mr. Herndon makes it clear
that in some respects Mrs. Lincoln was an admirable wife for her
husband. She faced the difficulties of their poverty with spirit and
resolution. Testimony from other sources to her graceful hospitality
abounds. More than this, from the very first she believed in his
powers. It seems she had the discernment to know, when few others can
have done so, how far greater he was than his rival Douglas. It was
Herndon's belief, in days when he and Mrs. Lincoln were the two persons
who saw most of him, that she sustained his just ambition, and that at
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