When a free woman does not want to marry the man who is trying to
arrange for her, she will tell him frankly that if he persists in
marrying her, she will run away from him. But if, in spite of this
threat, he completes the arrangements, then a few days after the
marriage she will escape to a neighbouring town and put herself under
the protection of the chief by tearing his cloth. The chief then gives
the husband notice of what has happened, and before he can claim his
wife he has to pay the chief 600 brass rods = 39s. as compensation for
his torn cloth. If the husband does not then permit her to marry the man
she wants, she runs away again and again, and every time she runs it
will cost her husband 600 brass rods. A sensible man will take warning
by the first threat, and will not complete the marriage.
If a free woman is badly treated by her husband, she will resort to the
above method of making him pay for his ill-treatment of her, and will
thus force him to use her more kindly. There is also a more drastic way
of punishing a husband for outrageous conduct towards his wife. After
repeated complaints of his ill-usage she will run to the witch-doctor
and smash his _eboko_, or saucepan of “medicine,” and in so doing she
will commit a great offence. The witch-doctor will hold her until the
husband redeems her by the gift of a slave, and the payment of a large
sum to replace the _eboko_ and make fresh “medicine.” Having paid the
money—for she is worth more than the total value of the slave and the
brass rods—he will treat his wife better in future, or she will again
break the _eboko_. A slave woman who runs away to a chief will be
brought back, and her master will beat, kill her, or sell her right out
of the district, so it is wiser for her to run right beyond his reach in
the first instance. I have known women who successfully carried out
these various modes of punishing their abusive, bad-tempered husbands;
and undoubtedly the fact that the women can and will make their husbands
pay in this way renders life more tolerable for them. Without some such
system the wife’s lot would be terrible and impossible.
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