An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
Justice is to be considered as general and particular; and tho’ Mankind
are apt to content themselves with a general Justice, yet it can never
claim the Merit of an exalted Virtue, unless we both know and practise it
in particular. To attain this Knowledge and Love of Justice, Children are
to be taught, even before they can speak, to part with any thing they are
in Possession of, and this readily, and without Clamour: the Effect of
which will be, that when a little more advanced, and they can distinguish
their own things from others, they will not eagerly desire the Property
of a Brother, a Sister, or Play-fellow. The next Step is, that Parents
avoid with the utmost Caution every the least Deceit, especially about
Money, and every thing which discovers to their Children a Fondness for
it. There is nothing more surprising to me, than the universal Disregard
Parents have to the Presence of their Children; a thousand things in
Life are necessary to be said and done which they, particularly while
young, should not be Witnesses to; and yet are Parents every Day and
Hour so impolitic and so imprudent, as not only to disclose their inmost
Thoughts, but to transact the most improper, nay perhaps the most
unjustifiable things before their Faces. As Children seldom have Judgment
to distinguish, they can only catch Appearances. Now suppose a Man in
a just Cause has played the Politician, and by the Force of Stratagem
recovered his Right; can it be a proper Subject for Children to be in the
hearing of? But should this Man have gone farther, and should he boast
a Conquest unjustly gain’d, perhaps to the Ruin of another; what Effect
must this have on the tender Minds of Children? Children in general act
by Imitation; therefore, as far as can be, they should see nothing but
what they may imitate. But farther, Children naturally think those things
right which they see done by their Parents; therefore they should see no
Action in them but what is really so. Farther still, Children, even under
a virtuous Education, are surrounded with a thousand Incitements to Ill;
their Eyes and Ears are continually open, and continually receive corrupt
Impressions, which dart to the Mind and Heart of the most innocent: where
then can they fly for an Antidote to this Poison? To whom shall they
have recourse; or by whom shall they be furnished with Weapons for their
Defence? By those to whom they are bound by every Tye; Parents alone must
stop the Torrent of every Evil to their Children, not only by virtuous
Precepts, but by virtuous Example. For as it is a certain Truth, that the
Influence of Parents is more than a Balance for a thousand others, the
Necessity of their opposing Vice with Virtue, is every way apparent: nor
is it any where more so than in the noble Cause of Justice.
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