An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
My Readers of this Class will, I am afraid, be apt to mistake me, and
think I design to keep them in a low dependent State; such an one as
they call being unhappy; far from it: I would not have undertaken this
Treatise at all, had I not designed the real, the universal Good of
Mankind. Without Vanity I can say it, no one has a more disinterested, a
more general Love of human Nature than myself; thousands have superior
Abilities, but few, perhaps none, have superior good Wishes for the
Happiness of Society; and should this very Performance prove a Trifle,
the Fault may be in my Head, but it is not in my Heart: my Intention is
good, if my Power is weak. Let this then serve as an Apology to all my
Readers, but let those of this Class in particular be persuaded, that
my Design is to augment the Happiness of their Children, not to lessen
it. But then, they must resolve to seek Happiness where it can be found;
if they wander into a Maze of Difficulties, and get into a Sphere they
are utter Strangers to, they will most probably miss of it; but if they
confine themselves within their own proper Orb, they need not fear to
find it. Still there is Reason to apprehend, that Men of every Rank, and
even among the lowest, will value themselves not for what they are, but
for what they have; and while People mistake Head for Brains, and Money
for Merit, the best Advice will often be useless.
But great as this Folly is, there is a much greater reigning. Money, as I
have already observed, is extremely apt to intoxicate Mankind; and it’s
Influence is but too visible both in high and low Life: but there are
thousands of this Class of People who pride themselves in educating their
Children learnedly and expensively, without the least Pretensions upon
Earth. If a Gentleman upon the Decay can get his Son educated suitable
to his Birth, Regard to his Family, and Regard to his Education, may
obtain him a genteel and profitable Employment: so too, if a Man in
an inferior Station is convinced he can purchase his Son a Place or a
Commission suitable to his superior Education, there is certainly room
to justify him, tho’ we blame his Vanity; but that People without the
least Expectations, that are conscious they cannot give their Children
a Shilling, who have not the Honour of a Family to support, nor a
Reputation to maintain, should run these strange Lengths, is amazing! The
Truth is, Pride and Ignorance are their Guides; they scorn to be outdone
by their Neighbours, tho’ all the while they really don’t know what it is
they are doing.
It is to be presumed that Children while Children, and while educating,
are in general Strangers to what may be their future Fortune on the
part of their Parents: now if they are taught to think themselves equal
to their Betters, taught to expect mighty things, and at length find
nothing, it is, I think, a grievous Calamity on one side, and gross
Injustice on the other: and yet is this evidently a daily Error.
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