An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
The Humours even of Infants are innumerably various. One Child will not
sleep but on a Lap; another there is no Peace with unless rock’d in a
Cradle; a third will cry when a Candle is taken away; and to shew us
why it cry’d, it is quiet the Moment it is brought back again; a fourth
will swill Tea or some other improper Liquor out of measure and out of
time; and a fifth will eat Trash ’till it can eat nothing else, nor that
itself. In these Cases I advise Parents to consider if their Children
are acting for themselves, or they for their Children: one Grain of
Judgment will set them right; one Minute’s Reflection will shew them
their Error; but, when they once see it they must resolve to avoid it for
the future. I call’d some time ago on a Friend, and took a Family Dinner;
when to my great Astonishment I saw little Master, not yet a Year old,
drinking Porter. What, said I, do you give the Child strong Drink? Oh!
Sir, reply’d Mamma, he’ll drink nothing else. Now is not the Fault of
such Proceeding obvious? and is not the Remedy as obvious? Parents surely
cannot be so blind as not to see their Children’s Health impair’d,
and their Humours strengthen’d, by this misplac’d Indulgence; and all
for want of a little Resolution, a gentle Correction, or a seasonable
Reprimand; nay perhaps only a Look; which given with an authoritative
Air, would often have the desired Effect. Constant Experience proves how
wrong, nay how ineffectual, the opposite Practice to this is; those who
give a Child every thing it cries or asks for, strengthen indeed its
Wilfulness, but are far from making it happy. How many improper Things
are there which Parents give a Child because they cannot quiet it? Who
has not seen a Picture, a Book, a Watch, and other valuable things
exposed to be destroyed by it through this mistaken Management? But
surely it is right that even among the Baubles contrived on purpose, the
Parents, not the Child, should have the Command of them; that is, they
should be given or taken away at Discretion; and this without Passion
or Ill-nature on one Side, and without Clamour or Fretfulness on the
other. Parents should every Day more and more convince their Children of
their Power over them, by restraining their little Irregularities, and
by weakening their Passions; now this they cannot do without an early
Attention to their various Dispositions and Tempers; that they may thence
learn what Propensity is strongest, what Foible is most predominant.
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