An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and educationNelson, James
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An essay on the government of children, under three general heads, viz. health, manners, and education
Nelson, James
Child rearing -- England -- History -- 18th century
so strongly proves the Man, as sympathizing with, and relieving the
Distresses of our Fellow Creatures: ’tis then the Duty of Parents never
to let their Children speak or act with the least Degree of Rudeness to
the lowest among Mankind; never to let them divert themselves with their
Rags or Misfortunes; but on the contrary, they should sometimes furnish
them with Money or other Things, that the Relief they design to give the
Needy may pass through their Hands: and at the same time imprint this
Truth on their Minds; that he who is thus reduced to ask, is often far
more deserving than he who bestows.
Another indispensable Duty of Parents to their Children is, that they
teach them never to dare to sport with the natural Defects of others.
As an ingenious Author says, “This Practice, though levelled at the
Creature, reflects on the Creator; it mocks the Architect, and burlesques
the Creation.” ’Tis strange that Persons of the best Understanding so
seldom reflect on this Point. What can be more absurd than to ridicule
one Man for being too tall, and another for being too short? one for
having too little Nose, another for having too much? The Degrees of
Beauty and Deformity are infinite; and to be perfectly free from natural
Defects and Blemishes is the Lot of very few: nor is it easy to fix the
Standard of Beauty. We know by Anatomy, Sculpture and Painting, the
general Rules of Symmetry and Proportion, and thus easily distinguish the
gross Defects; but Beauty in the superlative Degree, in it’s ultimate
Perfection, is not so readily determined. But farther; what is beautiful
in the Eye of one is not so in the Eye of another; what was accounted
Beauty in some former Age or distant Country, is not esteemed such at
present. Since then we see that ’tis our general Lot to be more or less
defective, and that All are made by one Almighty Hand, how inhuman must
it be to insult or despise another for what, if an Imperfection, it is
not in his Power to avoid; and that perhaps while the Insulter himself is
not free from other Blemishes, full as obvious and offensive to many.
But the Defects of the Body are not alone the Subject of our Ridicule; we
sport too with those of the Mind. Providence for wise Reasons does not
give to all alike; are we therefore to hold another in contempt for not
knowing so much as ourselves? Are we to laugh at a Man for not knowing
what he has had no opportunity to learn? no surely. A Neglect to improve,
and the Abuse of natural Talents, are the only things that deserve the
Scourge; and even here it often happens, that he who exercises the Rod,
deserves it more than he who feels it. Such however is the Partiality,
such the false Practice of Mankind. Can Parents then be too careful to
obviate these Errors in their Children? Can they take too much Pains to
imprint on their Souls the Meanness and Folly of such Mistakes? surely
they cannot.
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