Blackwood's Edinburgh Magazine, Vol. 75, No. 463, May, 1854Various
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Blackwood's Edinburgh Magazine, Vol. 75, No. 463, May, 1854
Various
England -- Periodicals; Scotland -- Periodicals
“Polygamy,” says Mr Lay, “is not practised by all, and is seldom
indulged in till the husband is advanced in years. It appears that by
far the greater number among the rich, as well as all among the poor,
reap the solaces of connubial life without suffering this hemlock to
grow in their furrows. A few, from the surfeit of too much ease and
prosperity, indulge in this practice, and a few more have recourse to it
for the sake of building up their house with an heir, or a more numerous
progeny;” while on the other side, it is fostered by “the anxiety of
parents to see their daughters provided for in the houses of the great,
and to reap a personal advantage from noble alliances.” For untiring
industry, cheerfulness of temper, fidelity to their husbands, and care
of their offspring, the poor women are every way exemplary. Any one who
visits China will find proofs of this wherever he turns his eyes, and a
traveller has only to lay his hand upon the head of a little child to
earn applause from a whole crowd of bystanders.
Constancy, habit of respect, and the social feeling are easily
recognisable in the character of the Chinese women. Chinese stories are
full of examples of love that knows no bounds. “There is only one
heaven,” said a forlorn maiden, when her parents upbraided her for
spending her days in sorrowful libations of salt tears at the tomb of
her lover, “and he was that heaven to me!” “A native of the United
States,” says Mr Lay, “married a Chinese female, who had never felt the
benefits of education, and therefore could scarcely have learnt to
cultivate this sentiment by lessons from those who were older than
herself. She accompanied her husband to America, and afterwards back
again to Macao, where a friend of mine paid her lord a visit. On his
return, I asked him how she demeaned herself towards her better half.
‘With great respect,’ was the answer. And this testimony in her favour
was not solitary; for the captain who conveyed the pair across the
Atlantic declared he had never met with such passengers before, and that
the wife rendered the services of a stewardess unnecessary in the cabin,
and with her own hands kept everything in an admirable state of order
and neatness.” When a stranger sees that a Chinese lady of the house is
not entitled to receive any civilities or acts of courtesy from the
friend of her husband, and forgets that this interdict is founded upon
motives of propriety, consecrated by the usage of the earliest times, he
is very apt to think her slighted, and that those apartments which the
Chinese have decorated with so many flowery names are but a sort of
prison. This is a great mistake, however, and the women of China are not
only exempt from that rigid seclusion which prevails elsewhere in the
East; but are treated much more nearly on terms of equality with their
husbands. There is nothing abject or mean, either in principle or
practice, in the deference which is paid, among high and low alike, to
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