English literature -- History and criticism; Literature -- Anecdotes; Litterateurs
The marble book in Westminster Abbey must, therefore, lose most of its
leaves; but it was necessary to discover the origin of this miraculous
production of a young lady. What is Lady Gethin's, or what is not hers,
in this miscellany of plagiarisms, it is not material to examine. Those
passages in which her ladyship speaks in her own person probably are of
original growth; of this kind many evince great vivacity of thought,
drawn from actual observation on what was passing around her; but even
among these are intermixed the splendid passages of Bacon and other
writers.
I shall not crowd my pages with specimens of a very suspicious author.
One of her subjects has attracted my attention; for it shows the corrupt
manners of persons of fashion who lived between 1680 and 1700. To find a
mind so pure and elevated as Lady Gethin's unquestionably was,
discussing whether it were most advisable to have for a husband a
general lover, or one attached to a mistress, and deciding by the force
of reasoning in favour of the dissipated man (for a woman, it seems, had
only the alternative), evinces a public depravation of morals. These
manners were the wretched remains of the court of Charles the Second,
when Wycherley, Dryden, and Congreve seem to have written with much less
invention, in their indecent plots and language, than is imagined.
I know not which is worse, to be wife to a man that is
continually changing his _loves_, or to an husband that hath
but one mistress whom he loves with a constant passion. And if
you keep some measure of civility to her, he will at least
esteem you; but he of the roving humour plays an hundred
frolics that divert the town and perplex his wife. She often
meets with her husband's mistress, and is at a loss how to
carry herself towards her. 'Tis true the constant man is ready
to sacrifice, every moment, his whole family to his love; he
hates any place where she is not, is prodigal in what concerns
his love, covetous in other respects; expects you should be
blind to all he doth, and though you can't but see, yet must
not dare to complain. And though both, he who lends his heart
to whosoever pleases it, and he that gives it entirely to one,
do both of them require the exactest devoir from their wives,
yet I know not if it be not better to be wife to an inconstant
husband (provided he be something discreet), than to a constant
fellow who is always perplexing her with his inconstant humour.
For the unconstant lovers are commonly the best humoured; but
let them be what they will, women ought not to be unfaithful
for Virtue's sake and their own, nor to offend by example. It
is one of the best bonds of charity and obedience in the wife
if she think her husband wise, which she will never do if she
find him jealous.
"Wives are young men's mistresses, companions for middle age,
and old men's nurses."
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