A second explanation of the prevailing inactivity in regard to household
affairs arises from the fact that it is always assumed that these
subjects concern only women. The husband of the family often excuses
his absolute ignorance of the affairs of his own household by the lame
apology, “I leave all these things to my wife and daughters.” It is
certainly not the intention in such remarks to belittle the affairs of
the household, yet that is the natural and inevitable result. A knowledge
of household affairs has never been considered a part of a liberal
education as is a knowledge of literature, science, and politics, but
when it is so regarded by men as well as by women a great gain will have
been made. Moreover, it must be said that the natural tastes of some
men would lead them to take up housekeeping as an occupation, as the
natural tastes of some women lead them into different kinds of business.
Inactivity in the household will cease when the arbitrary pressure is
removed that now tacitly compels many women to become housekeepers in
violence to their natural tastes, and at the same time prevents any man
whose abilities lie in this direction from giving them scope. The time
must come when each person will take up the work in life for which he or
she is best adapted, be it the care of a house for a man or business for
a woman, when it will cease to be a matter of odium for the husband to
direct the affairs of the house and for the wife to be the breadwinner.
When the fact is everywhere recognized that both men and women have a
vital concern in the affairs of the house, the relation between the
different parts of the household will become an organic one, and its
highest development reached.
A third explanation of this inactivity in the household is the belief
that all women have a natural taste for household affairs, which without
cultivation grows into positive genius for carrying them on. But a young
man with a genius for law or medicine is not only not expected, he is not
permitted, to exercise his untrained genius in legal and medical cases.
The greater the genius he gives promise of, the more careful, systematic,
and prolonged is the training he receives. In a similar way the woman
with a natural taste for housekeeping duties is the one who should have
most training in them, while in no other way can an interest in such
duties be created in women who have not an inborn love of them.
These three common errors—that a knowledge of housekeeping affairs is a
matter of inspiration, that men have no active interest in the management
of a household, and that all women have a natural love for such affairs
which supplies the place of training—are perhaps sufficient explanation
of the present lack of all opportunity for the investigation of the
household in a professional way.
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