The world rolls; the circumstances vary every hour. The angels that
inhabit this temple of the body appear at the windows, and the gnomes
and vices also. By all the virtues they are united. If there be virtue,
all the vices are known as such; they confess and flee. Their once
flaming regard is sobered by time in either breast, and losing in
violence what it gains in extent, it becomes a thorough good
understanding. They resign each other without complaint to the good
offices which man and woman are severally appointed to discharge in
time, and exchange the passion which once could not lose sight of its
object, for a cheerful, disengaged furtherance, whether present or
absent, of each other’s designs. At last they discover that all which
at first drew them together,—those once sacred features, that magical
play of charms,—was deciduous, had a prospective end, like the
scaffolding by which the house was built; and the purification of the
intellect and the heart from year to year is the real marriage,
foreseen and prepared from the first, and wholly above their
consciousness. Looking at these aims with which two persons, a man and
a woman, so variously and correlatively gifted, are shut up in one
house to spend in the nuptial society forty or fifty years, I do not
wonder at the emphasis with which the heart prophesies this crisis from
early infancy, at the profuse beauty with which the instincts deck the
nuptial bower, and nature and intellect and art emulate each other in
the gifts and the melody they bring to the epithalamium.
Thus are we put in training for a love which knows not sex, nor person,
nor partiality, but which seeks virtue and wisdom everywhere, to the
end of increasing virtue and wisdom. We are by nature observers, and
thereby learners. That is our permanent state. But we are often made to
feel that our affections are but tents of a night. Though slowly and
with pain, the objects of the affections change, as the objects of
thought do. There are moments when the affections rule and absorb the
man and make his happiness dependent on a person or persons. But in
health the mind is presently seen again,—its overarching vault, bright
with galaxies of immutable lights, and the warm loves and fears that
swept over us as clouds must lose their finite character and blend with
God, to attain their own perfection. But we need not fear that we can
lose any thing by the progress of the soul. The soul may be trusted to
the end. That which is so beautiful and attractive as these relations,
must be succeeded and supplanted only by what is more beautiful, and so
on for ever.
VI.
FRIENDSHIP
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