Free Opinions, Freely Expressed on Certain Phases of Modern Social Life and ConductCorelli, Marie
Religion
Free Opinions, Freely Expressed on Certain Phases of Modern Social Life and Conduct
Corelli, Marie
English essays -- 20th century; Great Britain -- Social life and customs -- 20th century
and Boston. It would appear that the chief ingredients of Hospitality
are manners,--for as Emerson says: “Manners are the _happy way_ of
doing things.” This “happy way” is becoming very rare. Society,
particularly the “Upper Ten” society,--is becoming, quite noticeably,
very rude. Some of the so-called “smartest” women are notoriously
very vulgar. Honesty, simplicity, sympathy, and delicacy of feeling
are, or seem to be, as much out of date as the dainty poems of Robert
Herrick, and the love-sonnets of Sir Philip Sidney. Time goes on, say
the iconoclasts--and we must go with it--we must, if our hurrying
civilization requires it, pass friends by with a cool nod, mock at
the vices of the young, and sneer at the failings of the old;--we
are all too busy to be courteous,--too much in a hurry grabbing gold
to be kind, and much too occupied with ourselves to be thoughtful of
others. So let us bury Hospitality decently once and for all, and
talk no more about it! It was a grand old Virtue!--let us inter it
with honour,--and cease to hold our funeral feasts and entertainments
in its name. For, being dead, ’tis dead and done with,--and amid all
our twentieth-century shams, let us at least drop, for shame, our
base imitations of the great-souled splendid Grace that was meant to
link our lives more sweetly together, to engender love, and to make
home more home-like. For nowadays, few of us are simple and truthful
enough in our lines of conduct even to understand Hospitality in
its real meaning. “Between simple and noble persons,”--says a great
philosopher--“there is always a quick intelligence; they recognize
at sight; and meet on a better ground than the talents and skills
they may chance to possess, namely, on sincerity and uprightness.”
Sincerity and uprightness are the very fibre and life-blood of true
Hospitality. But the chief canon of modern society is hypocrisy, to
begin with. Insincerity and lack of principle naturally follow, with
their usual accompaniment, moral cowardice,--and so men and women sneak
and crawl, and flatter base persons for what they can get, and reject
all chances of faithful friendship for mere ephemeral show. Under such
conditions as these, what can good old Hospitality do but draw its
last breath with a gentle sigh of expiring sorrow for the mistaken
world which prefers a lie to a truth, and still to this day crucifies
all its loving would-be redeemers on miserable Calvarys of desolation!
No happiness does it gain thereby, but only increased bitterness and
weariness,--and the fact that all our social customs have greatly
changed since the old time when households were wisely ruled and very
simply ordered, is no advantage to the general social community. We
may, if we choose,--(and we very often do so choose,) fly from one
desire to another and thence to satiety, and back again from satiety to
desire, but we shall never, in such pursuit, find the peace engendered
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