And now let us glance at the training of the girls. This is, if possible,
more deplorable than that of the boys. But it is an admirable testimony
to the natural superiority of the Frenchwoman’s character that even the
long-persistent effort to spoil her in early years does not prevent
her from turning her liberty, when it comes, to excellent account. The
little French girl in her mother’s home is happier, I believe, than any
other little girl of the world. No child has such tender, such watchful,
such devoted, parents as she. She is enveloped in love and care from
her cradle, and her privilege is to hear delightful speech about her. A
foreign _gouvernante_ will be engaged to teach her whatever language it
is intended she shall speak fluently—German or English. If she is not to
go to a convent (and this will be, in her interest, the only intelligent
decision) she attends _cours_ like her brother, and the _gouvernante_
is superseded by the certificated governess. A good governess, that
is, a cultured and liberal-minded lady, is a priceless blessing, but,
unhappily, she is rare. I do not know why the best class of women avoid
the mission of training the young, for, in the case of a woman without
children of her own to train, it ought to be regarded as an exceptionally
noble undertaking. It is not, however; and more’s the pity. Society is
to blame, with its inane traditions, and, along with it, the senseless
passion for inflicting slight and pain upon those in an inferior position
which besets so many women in their own homes. And so, not wishing to be
treated as servants, without any proper status or dignity, the superior
women, who would make the best governesses, seek more independent and
congenial occupation; and the training of girls at home falls into the
hands of hopeless mediocrities, who have little knowledge and less
manners, whose point of view is squalid and shabby and personal. I have
listened to the complaints of many an unhappy governess, and I will own
I have always been shocked and sickened by the silly way these women
allow their lives to be poisoned by considerations they should have the
dignity to ignore. How are young women to acquire a noble influence
over their pupils when they are busy lamenting the fact that biscuits
at lunch were not offered to them, or other such material and vulgar
slights which they usually dwell upon as unendurable? If they have heart
enough to love, and brains enough to teach and guide, their pupils, and
sufficient independence of character not to let themselves be trampled
upon, overworked, or snubbed, of what would they have to complain? Let
them raise the tone of their position, and they will get all the respect
they need and have a right to. I know Frenchwomen who are grandmothers,
who still love and admire the feeble and disabled governesses of their
girlhood who have helped to train their children and their grandchildren.
But in France the superior woman, who might have made an excellent
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