Friendly Visiting among the Poor: A Handbook for Charity WorkersRichmond, Mary Ellen
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Friendly Visiting among the Poor: A Handbook for Charity Workers
Richmond, Mary Ellen
Friendly visiting
_Persevering under Difficulties._--We are each year more strongly
impressed with the importance and value of patient and careful visiting,
even in the face of great discouragement, believing that sincere and
judicious friendliness is invariably helpful, although it may be long
before any apparent result is produced. Proofs of this are constantly
coming to us, as in a German family which has been for the last six years
under the care of one of our visitors. The family consists of father,
mother, and five children, and, when first visited, they were found
almost destitute,--the woman earning a little by picking berries in the
summer and selling them, and the man by picking coal,--though they were
well able to work. The visitor was received very ungraciously at first,
and it was only after finding some work for the man, and showing a real
interest in the children, that she gained any hold upon them. No really
marked improvement took place until the children went to the Industrial
School. Then the girls taught their mother how her work should be done,
and it was with great pride that they showed the visitor how neat they
had made their rooms. Work was obtained for the man as {201}
night-watchman at $12.00 a week, and, after a while, he was able to pay
off all his back debts. He is now always glad to see the visitor. Three
of the girls are at work, and they seem a happy and prosperous
family.--Tenth Report of Boston Associated Charities, p. 55.
_Widow with Children._--A typical case of chronic dependence is that of a
widow with six children. When she was referred to us, nearly four years
ago, her children were very young, and she, though well-meaning, was
stupid and inefficient. The problem was not whether aid should be
given,--that was clearly necessary, for the woman could not earn anything
with her little children to care for,--but if the aid could be given in
such a way as to really benefit them. Relief was procured from the
proper sources,--$20.00 a quarter from the "Shaw Fund for Mariners'
Children," $2.00 a month in groceries from the city, and at times $1.00 a
week from the St. Vincent de Paul Society. The visitor who first
interested himself in the family, and who has been their friend and
counsellor ever since, received the quarterly $20.00 for them, paid the
rent with $13.00 of it, and gave the rest to the woman, who knew just
what she had to depend upon, and learned to use it properly. As the
children grew older, the boy went into a district telegraph office; and
the girl, wishing to go into a store, asked the visitor to find her a
place. He thought, however, {202} that it was wiser to teach her how to
find one, and, after suggesting some good establishments to which to
apply, told her to get references from her schoolteacher and others, and
go herself to ask for work. This she did with some difficulty, and got a
place; and when, after a time, she gave it up, she knew what to do, and
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