Failure of one often leads to distrust of all. This is the terrible
responsibility of friendship. We have more than the happiness of our
friend in our power; we, have his faith. Most men who are cynical
about women are so, because of the inconstancy of one. Most sneers at
friendship are, to begin with at least, the expression of individual
pain, because the man has known the shock of the lifted heel. Distrust
works havoc on the character; for it ends in unbelief of goodness
itself. And distrust always meets with its own likeness, and is paid
back in its own coin. Suspicion breeds suspicion, and the conduct of
life on such principles becomes a tug-of-war in which Greek is matched
with Greek.
The social virtues, which keep the whole community together, are thus
closely allied to the supreme virtue of friendship. Aristotle had
reason in making it the _nexus_ between his Ethics and his Politics.
Truth, good faith, honest dealing between man and man, are necessary
for any kind of intercourse, even that of business. Men can do nothing
with each other, if they have not a certain minimum of trust. There
have been times when there seems to be almost an epidemic of
faithlessness, when the social bond seems loosened, when men's hands
are raised against each other, when confidence is paralyzed, and people
hardly know whom to trust.
The prophet Micah, who lived in such a time, expresses this state of
distrust: "Trust ye not any friend, put ye no confidence in a familiar
friend. A man's enemies are of his own household." This means
anarchy, and society becomes like a bundle of sticks with the cord cut.
The cause is always a decay of religion; for law is based on morality,
and morality finds its strongest sanction in religion. Selfishness
results in anarchy, a reversion to the Ishmaelite type of life.
The story of the French Revolution has in it some of the darkest pages
in the history of modern civilization, due to the breakdown of social
trust. The Revolution, like Saturn, took to devouring her own
children. Suspicion, during the reign of terror, brooded over the
heads of men, and oppressed their hearts. The ties of blood and
fellowship seemed broken, and the sad words of Christ had their horrid
fulfilment, that the brother would deliver up the brother to death, and
the father the child, and the children rise up against the parents and
cause them to be put to death. There are some awful possibilities in
human nature. In Paris of these days a man had to be ever on his
guard, to watch his acts, his words, even his looks. It meant for a
time a collapse of the whole idea of the state. It was a panic, worse
than avowed civil war. Friendship, of course, could have little place
in such a frightful palsy of mutual confidence, though there were, for
the honor of the race, some noble exceptions. The wreck of friendship
through deceit is always a step toward social anarchy; for it helps to
break down trust and good faith among men.
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