It must needs be that offences come. It is not only that the world is
full of conflict and controversy, and every man must take his share in
the fights of his time. We are born into the battle; we are born for
the battle. But apart from the outside strife, from which we cannot
separate ourselves, and do not desire to separate ourselves if we are
true men, the strange thing is that it looks as if it must needs be
that offences come even among brethren. The bitterest disputes in life
are among those who are nearest each other in spirit. We do not
quarrel with the man in the street, the man with whom we have little or
no communication. He has not the chance, nor the power, to chafe our
soul, and ruffle our temper. If need be, we can afford to despise, or
at least to neglect him. It is the man of our own household, near us
in life and spirit, who runs the risk of the only serious dissensions
with us. The man with whom we have most points of contact presents the
greatest number of places where difference can occur. Only from
circles that touch each other can a tangent strike off from the same
point. A man can only make enemies among his friends. A certain
amount of opposition and enmity a man must be prepared for in this
world, unless he live a very invertebrate life. Outside opposition
cannot embitter, for it cannot touch the soul. But that two who have
walked as friends, one in aim and one in heart, perhaps of the same
household of faith, should stand face to face with hard brows and
gleaming eyes, should speak as foes and not as lovers of the same love,
is, in spite of the poets and romancers, the bitterest moment of life.
There are some we cannot hurt even if we would; whom all the venom of
our nature could not touch, because we mean nothing to them. But there
are others in our power, whom we can stab with a word, and these are
our brethren, our familiar friends, our comrades at work, our close
associates, our fellow laborers in God's vineyard. It is not the crowd
that idly jostle us in the street who can hurt us to the quick, but a
familiar friend in whom we trusted. He has a means of ingress barred
to strangers, and can strike home as no other can. This explains why
family quarrels, ruptures in the inner circle, Church disputes, are so
bitter. They come so near us. An offended brother is hard to win,
because the very closeness of the previous intimacy brings a rankling
sense of injustice and the resentment of injured love. An injury from
the hand of a friend seems such a wanton thing; and the heart hardens
itself with the sense of wrong, and a separation ensues like the bars
of a castle.
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