Godey's Lady's Book, Vol. 48, No. XVIII, April, 1854Various
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Godey's Lady's Book, Vol. 48, No. XVIII, April, 1854
Various
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We would ask on whom and on what must _mainly_ rest the position they are
to hold, the _character_ of the work to be effected? Surely, in themselves
and in the disinterested and docile spirit with which it is entered on
and pursued. Short of high aims and pure motives, no course can leave its
valuable impress, and it is an acknowledged, even if too little credited,
maxim, that they who best learn to obey and submit to lawful rule, best
know how to govern. Let us therefore be permitted to persuade the young
and high-spirited to remember that _their time will come_ to take the
lead, and that no premature assumption of authority or airs of control
will avail for half the benefit to be derived from a teachable spirit,
and quiet observing and waiting for opportunity. We know full well and
practically that this simple method is capable of eliciting the most
harmonious and beautiful results, and that between teachers of experience
and those seeking preparation for the work, a friendship will grow of a
character the most extended and the most varied in its points of interest.
We will not pause to enlarge on the sad contrast to this state of things,
its multiform evils--for we do not like looking on the dark side of
subjects which should bring out every latent grace and virtue of the soul.
Moreover, we are fully persuaded of better things, so far at least as
intention and desire are concerned, yet a friendly hand may offer some
warning hints of evils which are wont to creep in and mar the benefit and
beauty of fulfilment.
A trite motto tells us that "manners make the man!" It is, at least, by
all conceded that they are the outward garb and indication of that which
is within, and that to a degree of which the actor is often unaware and
unconscious. Can the young teacher then deem unimportant any measure of
care in deportment, or regard as too severe a self-sacrifice the gentle
and habitual control of those ebullitions of spirits, those out-of-place
familiarities which we have oftentimes seen sweeping away the outguards
of reverence by action, word, or look? If these are in an isolated
individual annoying or unseemly, how great are their effect and potency
when a sympathetic influence pervades a number met for the same purpose,
and that avowedly one of the highest improvement and culture! A little
true _reflection_ on this point would, we are assured, convert many a
well-meaning, but unpolished, and therefore ill-prepared young woman into
the well-mannered lady, the true helper of her presiding teacher, and, in
time, the consistently dignified instructress of others.
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