The true inspiration of the friendly letter is the perfect faith that all
the concerns of the writer will interest his friend. If James, who is
separated by distance from John, thinks that John will not care about what
James has been doing, hoping, suffering, the fount of friendly
correspondence is frozen at its source. James ought to believe that John
loves him enough to care about every little thing that can affect his
happiness, even to the sickness of his old horse or the accident that
happened to his dog when the scullery-maid threw scalding water out of the
kitchen window; then there will be no lack, and James will babble on
innocently through many a page, and never have to think.
The believer in friendship, he who has the true undoubting faith, writes
with perfect carelessness about great things and small, avoiding neither
serious interests, as a wary man would, nor trivial ones that might be
passed over by a writer avaricious of his time. William of Orange, in his
letters to Bentinck, appears to have been the model of friendly
correspondents; and he was so because his letters reflected not a part
only of his thinking and living, but the whole of it, as if nothing that
concerned him could possibly be without interest for the man he loved.
Familiar as it must be to many readers, I cannot but quote a passage from
Macaulay:
"The descendants of Bentinck still preserve many letters written by
William to their master, and it is not too much to say that no person
who has not studied those letters can form a correct notion of the
Prince's character. He whom even his admirers generally accounted the
most frigid and distant of men here forgets all distinctions of rank,
and pours out all his thoughts with the ingenuousness of a schoolboy.
He imparts without reserve secrets of the highest moment. He explains
with perfect simplicity vast designs affecting all the governments of
Europe. Mingled with his communications on such subjects are other
communications of a very different but perhaps not of a less
interesting kind. All his adventures, all his personal feelings, his
long runs after enormous stags, his carousals on St. Hubert's Day, the
growth of his plantations, the failure of his melons, the state of his
stud, his wish to procure an easy pad-nag for his wife, his vexation
at learning that one of his household, after ruining a girl of good
family, refused to marry her, his fits of sea-sickness, his coughs,
his headaches, his devotional moods, his gratitude for the Divine
protection after a great escape, his struggles to submit himself to
the Divine will after a disaster, are described with an amiable
garrulity hardly to have been expected from the most discreetly sedate
statesman of his age. Still more remarkable is the careless effusion
of his tenderness, and the brotherly interest which he takes in his
friend's domestic felicity."
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