Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
The commonest forms of imaginative hostility are grounded on social
self-feeling, and come under the head of resentment. We impute to the
other person an injurious thought regarding something which we cherish
as a part of our self, and this awakens anger, which we name pique,
animosity, umbrage, estrangement, soreness, bitterness, heart-burning,
jealousy, indignation, and so on; in accordance with variations which
these words suggest. They all rest upon a feeling that the other person
harbors ideas injurious to us, so that the thought of him is an attack
upon our self. Suppose, for instance, there is a person who has reason
to believe that he has caught me in a lie. It makes little difference,
perhaps, whether he really has or not; so long as I have any
self-respect left, and believe that he entertains this depreciatory idea
of me, I must resent this idea whenever, through my thinking of him, it
enters my mind. Or suppose there is a man who has met me running in
panic from the field of battle; would it not be hard not to hate him?
These situations are perhaps unusual, but we all know persons to whom we
attribute depreciation of our characters, our friends, our children, our
workmanship, our cherished creed or philanthropy; and we do not like
them.
The resentment of charity or pity is a good instance of hostile
sympathy. If a man has self-respect, he feels insulted by the
depreciating view of his manhood implied in commiserating him or
offering him alms. Self-respect means that one’s reflected self is up to
the social standard: and the social standard requires that a man should
not need pity or alms except under very unusual conditions. So the
assumption that he does need them is an injury—whether he does or
not—precisely as it is an insult to a woman to commiserate her ugliness
and bad taste, and suggest that she wear a veil or employ someone to
select her gowns. The curious may find interest in questions like this:
whether a tramp can have self-respect unless he deceives the one who
gives him aid, and so feels superior to him, and not a mere dependent.
In the same way we can easily see why criminals look down upon paupers.
The word indignation suggests a higher sort of imaginative hostility. It
implies that the feeling is directed toward some attack upon a standard
of right, and is not merely an impulse like jealousy or pique. A higher
degree of rationalization is involved; there is some notion of a
reasonable adjustment of personal claims, which the act or thought in
question violates. We frequently perceive that the simpler forms of
resentment have no rational basis, could not be justified in open court,
but indignation always claims a general or social foundation. We feel
indignant when we think that favoritism and not merit secures promotion,
when the rich man gets a pass on the railroad, and so on.
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