Human nature and the social orderCooley, Charles Horton
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Human nature and the social order
Cooley, Charles Horton
Individualism; Social psychology; Sociology
However, the excitant of love, in all its finer aspects, is a felt
possibility of communication, a dawning of sympathetic renewal. We grow
by influence, and where we feel the presence of an influence that is
enlarging or uplifting, we begin to love. Love is the normal and usual
accompaniment of the healthy expansion of human nature by communion; and
in turn is the stimulus to more communion. It seems not to be a special
emotion in quite the same way that anger, grief, fear, and the like are,
but something more primary and general, the stream, perhaps, of which
these and many other sentiments are special channels or eddies.
Love and sympathy, then, are two things which, though distinguishable,
are very commonly found together, each being an instigator of the other;
what we love we sympathize with, so far as our mental development
permits. To be sure, it is also true that when we hate a person, with an
intimate, imaginative, human hatred, we enter into his mind, or
sympathize—any strong interest will arouse the imagination and create
some sort of sympathy—but affection is a more usual stimulus.
Love, in this sense of kindly sympathy, may have all degrees of
emotional intensity and of sympathetic penetration, from a sort of
passive good-nature, not involving imagination or mental activity of any
sort, up to an all-containing human enthusiasm, involving the fullest
action of the highest faculties, and bringing with it so strong a
conviction of complete good that the best minds have felt and taught
that God is Love. Thus understood it is not any specific sort of
emotion, at least not that alone, but a general outflowing of the mind
and heart, accompanied by that gladness that the fullest life carries
with it. When the apostle John says that God is love, and that everyone
that loveth knoweth God, he evidently means something more than personal
affection, something that knows as well as feels, that takes account of
all special aspects of life and is just to all.
Ordinary personal affection does not fill our ideal of right or justice,
but encroaches, like all special impulses. It is not at all uncommon to
wrong one person out of affection for another. If, for instance, I am
able to procure a desirable position for a friend, it may well happen
that there is another and a fitter man, whom I do not know or do not
care for, from whose point of view my action is an injurious abuse of
power. It is evident that good can be identified with no simple emotion,
but must be sought in some wider phase of life that embraces all points
of view. So far as love approaches this comprehensiveness it tends
toward justice, because the claims of all live and are adjusted in the
mind of him who has it.
“Love’s hearts are faithful but not fond,
Bound for the just but not beyond.”
Public-domain text, read in full here on John Shaqi.
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