Sexism; Women -- Social and moral questions; Women -- Social conditions
Needless to say, this picture bears no more relation to the facts than
a dissertation on major strategy by a military “expert” promoted from
dramatic critic. If the chief suffragette scare mongers (I speak
without any embarrassing naming of names) were attractive enough to men
to get near enough to enough men to know enough about them for their
purpose they would paralyze the Dorcas societies with no such cajoling
libels. As a matter of sober fact, the average man of our time and race
is quite incapable of all these incandescent and intriguing
divertisements. He is far more virtuous than they make him out, far
less schooled in sin, far less enterprising and ruthless. I do not say,
of course, that he is pure in heart, for the chances are that he isn’t;
what I do say is that, in the overwhelming majority of cases, he is
pure in act, even in the face of temptation. And why? For several main
reasons, not to go into minor ones. One is that he lacks the courage.
Another is that he lacks the money. Another is that he is fundamentally
moral, and has a conscience. It takes more sinful initiative than he
has in him to plunge into any affair save the most casual and sordid;
it takes more ingenuity and intrepidity than he has in him to carry it
off; it takes more money than he can conceal from his consort to
finance it. A man may force his actual wife to share the direst
poverty, but even the least vampirish woman of the third part demands
to be courted in what, considering his station in life, is the grand
manner, and the expenses of that grand manner scare off all save a
small minority of specialists in deception. So long, indeed, as a wife
knows her husband’s income accurately, she has a sure means of holding
him to his oaths.
Even more effective than the fiscal barrier is the barrier of
poltroonery. The one character that distinguishes man from the other
higher vertebrate, indeed, is his excessive timorousness, his easy
yielding to alarms, his incapacity for adventure without a crowd behind
him. In his normal incarnation he is no more capable of initiating an
extra-legal affair—at all events, above the mawkish harmlessness of a
flirting match with a cigar girl in a cafe-than he is of scaling the
battlements of hell. He likes to think of himself doing it, just as he
likes to think of himself leading a cavalry charge or climbing the
Matterhorn. Often, indeed, his vanity leads him to imagine the thing
done, and he admits by winks and blushes that he is a bad one. But at
the bottom of all that tawdry pretence there is usually nothing more
material than an oafish smirk at some disgusted shop-girl, or a
scraping of shins under the table. Let any woman who is disquieted by
reports of her husband’s derelictions figure to herself how long it
would have taken him to propose to her if left to his own enterprise,
and then let her ask herself if so pusillanimous a creature could be
imaged in the role of Don Giovanni.
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