Sexism; Women -- Social and moral questions; Women -- Social conditions
The high value set upon virginity by men, whose esteem of it is based
upon a mixture of vanity and voluptuousness, causes many women to guard
it in their own persons with a jealousy far beyond their private
inclinations and interests. It is their theory that the loss of it
would materially impair their chances of marriage. This theory is not
supported by the facts. The truth is that the woman who sacrifices her
chastity, everything else being equal, stands a much better chance of
making a creditable marriage than the woman who remains chaste. This is
especially true of women of the lower economic classes. At once they
come into contact, hitherto socially difficult and sometimes almost
impossible, with men of higher classes, and begin to take on, with the
curious facility of their sex, the refinements and tastes and points of
view of those classes. The mistress thus gathers charm, and what has
begun as a sordid sale of amiability not uncommonly ends with formal
marriage. The number of such marriages is enormously greater than
appears superficially, for both parties obviously make every effort to
conceal the facts. Within the circle of my necessarily limited personal
acquaintance I know of scores of men, some of them of wealth and
position, who have made such marriages, and who do not seem to regret
it. It is an old observation, indeed, that a woman who has previously
disposed of her virtue makes a good wife. The common theory is that
this is because she is grateful to her husband for rescuing her from
social outlawry; the truth is that she makes a good wife because she is
a shrewd woman, and has specialized professionally in masculine
weakness, and is thus extra-competent at the traditional business of
her sex. Such a woman often shows a truly magnificent sagacity. It is
very difficult to deceive her logically, and it is impossible to disarm
her emotionally. Her revolt against the pruderies and sentimentalities
of the world was evidence, to begin with, of her intellectual
enterprise and courage, and her success as a rebel is proof of her
extraordinary pertinacity, resourcefulness and acumen.
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