In the old days before the war this house was nearly always full of
friends, guests, for they were invited, but they never were in or on my
mind as guests, and I don't remember ever feeling that I was a hostess.
The impression I now have of them is that they were all very young. But
of course they weren't; some were quite as old as Mrs. Barnes, and once
or twice came people even older. They all, however, had this in common,
that whatever their age was when they arrived, by the time they left
they were not more than twenty.
I can't explain this. It couldn't only have been the air, invigorating
and inspiriting though it is, because my present guests are still
exactly the same age as the first day. That is, Mrs. Barnes is. Dolly is
of no age--she never was and never will be forty; but Mrs. Barnes is
just as firmly fifty as she was a fortnight ago, and it only used to
take those other guests a week to shed every one of their years except
the first twenty.
Is it this static, rock-like quality in Mrs. Barnes that makes her
remain so unchangeably a guest, that makes her unable to develope into a
friend? Why must I, because she insists on remaining a guest, be kept so
firmly in my proper place as hostess? I want to be friends. I feel as
full of friendliness as a brimming cup. Why am I not let spill some of
it? I should love to be friends with Dolly, and I would like very much
to be friends with Mrs. Barnes. Not that I think she and I would ever be
intimate in the way I am sure Dolly and I would be after ten minutes
together alone, but we might develope a mutually indulgent affection. I
would respect her prejudices, and she would forgive me that I have so
few, and perhaps find it interesting to help me to increase them.
But the anxious care with which Mrs. Barnes studies to be her idea of a
perfect guest forces me to a corresponding anxious care to be her idea
of a perfect hostess. I find it wearing. There is no easy friendliness
for us, no careless talk, no happy go-as-you-please and naturalness. And
ought a guest to be so constantly grateful? Her gratitude is almost a
reproach. It makes me ashamed of myself; as if I were a plutocrat, a
profiteer, a bloated possessor of more than my share, a bestower of
favours--of all odious things to be! Now I perceive that I never have
had guests before, but only friends. For the first time I am really
entertaining; or rather, owing to the something in Mrs. Barnes that
induces in me a strange submissiveness, a strange acceptance of her
ordering of our days, I am for the first time, not only in my own house,
but in any house that I can remember where I have stayed, being
entertained.
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