J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His WifeCarr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
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J. Comyns Carr: Stray Memories, by His Wife
Carr, Alice Vansittart Strettel
Carr, J. Comyns (Joseph Comyns), 1849-1916
The children were always the frame to the picture in that lovable
household, and our daughter--the apple of her father’s eye,
made in his mould, gifted with his humour and large with his urbane
and generous heart--had a very special place there. I remember his
pride when George Meredith watching her one day at his feet, said:
“Look at the bumps on that child’s head. Always let her
pursue whatever walk in life she chooses.”
His advice was followed; and she _knew_ what she would choose. I was
having her trained for a violinist (for her gifts were several) and her
master was proud of her at twelve years old. But at fourteen she came
to us one day and said: “Father, I hope you won’t mind:
I’ve sold my violin. I know now that I want to draw--and no one
can serve two masters so I’ve put away the temptation.”
Joe was generally the centre around whom the children mustered in those
good days, and many an extra ten minutes did he beg off their bedtime
in the summer twilight or by the big Christmas logs. He used to tell
them that he hated going to bed himself, and nothing was more true.
“If I didn’t know that your mother always gives me cotton sheets,” he
would say on a winter’s night, “I would never go. I’ve no fancy for a
country trip every time I turn round in bed.”
But indeed he needed no such excuse for sitting up late when he had a
congenial audience. He had a wonderful capacity for sound sleep when
the time came--a capacity equalled, as he expressed it, for “enjoying”
laziness; because, of exercise--save in the pursuit of bird or fish--he
would have none; but most of his life he sat up late and his most
welcome form of rest was always in talk.
In this relaxation he was even more than matched in argumentativeness
by the husband of another most hospitable hostess, to whom he addresses
the following letter after a long visit when she had housed us in a
homeless interval. I may add that our host was an etymologist, and
would confront Joe with a dictionary in support of his own view of
a disputed word; also that he was an eminent amateur musician and a
vehement Wagnerian.
“MY DEAR----,
It seems to me that you and your husband ought to be told that you are
excellent hosts--and yet I don’t want the thing to get about.
At first I thought that I would declare loudly to all whom I met how
pleasant a thing it was to stay in your house; and then I thought I
wouldn’t.
When one has discovered a really charming place where one can live
with exclusive regard to one’s own selfish indulgence, it is
perhaps hardly wise to noise it abroad. Some of the snuggest corners
in Europe have been ruined by such imprudent chatter; and I feel that
I should never forgive myself if I were to be the means of making it
generally known that your house is so delightful. But I think after
all that I can trust you!
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