Life and writings of Amelia BloomerBloomer, D. C. (Dexter C.)
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Life and writings of Amelia Bloomer
Bloomer, D. C. (Dexter C.)
Bloomer, Amelia Jenks, 1818-1894; Women's rights -- United States
Mrs. Bloomer, in commenting on an article in the Chicago _Tribune_
stating that women should not be called by their husbands’ titles,
wrote for the _Western Woman’s Journal_ as follows:
NAMES OF MARRIED WOMEN.
“I am glad the _Tribune_ has spoken out on this question, and
had it gone further and included names as well as titles in its
criticisms it would have done better. It has become so much the
fashion for women to call themselves and to be known by their
husbands’ names and titles that a woman’s Christian name is seldom
heard or known. Why a woman as soon as she is married is willing
to drop the good name of Mary or Elizabeth and take that of John,
Thomas or Harry I never could understand. And as to titles, why a
woman should be called Mrs. General, Mrs. Colonel, Mrs. Captain
or Mrs. Judge I don’t know except it be on the principle that
husband and wife are one and that one the husband, and the wife is
his appendage and must be known by his title instead of having an
individuality of her own.
“So far is this matter of appropriating names and titles carried,
that women retain them after the death of the husbands and call
themselves Mrs. Colonel or Mrs. Doctor when there is no such doctor
or colonel in existence. It would seem as though, the man being
dead, his title would die with him and henceforth his wife assume
her Christian name.
“Quite recently an inquiry came to me from New York for the
Christian name of a woman who had been quite prominent. On looking
over letters and papers bearing her name I found that in every
instance she had used her husband’s initials, and it was only after
sending a postal with the inquiry one hundred and fifty miles that
I learned her name and transmitted it to New York. This is but one
instance of the many where women use the name of the husband with
‘Mrs.’ prefixed whenever they have occasion to write their names.
“But women are not alone to blame in the matter. The press does
its part to keep up what the _Tribune_ calls a vulgar custom. We
have an instance at hand. Only a short time ago the daily press
announced that ‘Mrs. Colonel C. S. Chase, of Omaha, is very ill.’
And again a short time after it announced ‘the death of Mrs.
Colonel Chase,’ thus following the woman to the grave with her
husband’s name and title. She was not a colonel, had never been a
colonel, and it surely would have been more proper to say Mary,
the wife of Col. Chase. Doubtless all have fallen into the custom
thoughtlessly.
“Where a woman has earned a title of her own, it is right that she
should be called by it, and I see no reason why the prefix of Mrs.
should always be attached. It would be quite improper to say Mr.
Doctor Green; then why should we say Mrs. Doctor Hilton?
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