Life in the sick-room : $b EssaysMartineau, Harriet
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Life in the sick-room : $b Essays
Martineau, Harriet
Conduct of life; Sick
Then we have (not to dwell on a matter already spoken of) a peculiar
privilege in the peculiar loveliness which the image of Death assumes
to us. In our long leisure, all sweet and soothing associations of
rest,--of relief from anxiety and wearing thought,--of re-entrance upon
society,--(a society how sanctified!)--of the realisation of our best
conceptions of what is holy, noble, and perfect,--all affections, all
aspirations gather round the idea of Death, till it recurs at all our
best moments, and becomes an abiding thought of peace and joy. When we
hear or read of the departure of any one we knew,--of the death even of
the youngest or the most active,--a throb of congratulatory feeling is
our first emotion, rather than the shock which we used to experience,
and which we now see sustained by those around us. Reflection, or
tidings of survivors may change our view; but so does the image of Death
become naturally endeared to us, that our first spontaneous thought is
of favour to those who are selected for it. I am not recommending this
impression as rational, but intimating it as characteristic of a
peculiar condition. It is no slight privilege, however, to have that
great idea which necessarily confronts every one of us all clothed with
loveliness instead of horror, or mere mystery. Till now, we never knew
how any anticipation may be incessantly filling with sweetness.
It may be doubted whether there is a more heartfelt peace experienced at
any point of our moral progress than in the right reception of
calumnious injury. In the immediate return from the first recoil into
the mood of forgiveness, there is something heavenly even to the novice.
In the compassion for one’s calumniator there is pain; and it is a pain
which increases with experience of life, and with our insight into the
peril and misery of an unjust and malicious habit of mind; but in the
act of pitying forgiveness, there is a solace so sweet as to make one
wonder how long men will be in adopting this remedy for their injuries.
Any one who has been ambitious, and with success, will, if he be wise,
be ready to declare that not the first breath of fame was to him so
sweet as the first emotions of forgiveness, the first stirrings of the
love of enemies, after his earliest experience of the calumny by which
all public effort is sure to be assailed. I am not supposing cowardly
acquiescence in insult and injury. I am supposing the due self-assertion
made, or defence found not to be practicable. This is all that others
have to do with. A man’s self-communion on the matter is his own
private affair: and little know the systematic calumniators, who for
party’s or prejudice’s sake, assail those who can only return silence,
how they really work in some hearts they seek to wound. In some they may
excite rage or bitter anguish; but there are others,--probably many,--in
which they cause no severer pain than a pitying sorrow for themselves,
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