Mary Russell Mitford and her surroundingsHill, Constance
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Mary Russell Mitford and her surroundings
Hill, Constance
Authors, English -- 19th century -- Biography; Mitford, Mary Russell, 1787-1855; Women intellectuals -- Great Britain -- Biography
“It is a very able and conciliatory plea for the Church. My opinion (if
an insignificant woman may presume to give one) is that certain reforms
ought to be; that very gross cases of pluralities should be abolished
... that some few of the clergy are too rich, and that a great many are
too poor. But although not holding all her doctrines, I heartily agree
with you that, as an establishment, the Church ought to remain; for to
say nothing of the frightful precedent of sweeping away property, which
would not stop there, the country would be overrun with fanatics....
But the Church must be (as many of her members are) wisely tolerant.
Bishops must not wage war with theatres, nor rectors with a Sunday
evening game of cricket.”
Happily reforms in such matters were soon to be brought forward by
Charles Kingsley and many others. Charles Kingsley, when he was made
Rector of Eversley, was a neighbour of Miss Mitford’s and became in
time her fast friend.
During the year 1842 Dr. Mitford’s health rapidly declined and his
devoted daughter was nearly worn out by her constant attendance upon
him. He had a strange notion which he held pertinaciously that all
outdoor exercise was bad for her, while, in fact, her short strolls
in her garden or in the neighbouring fields was the only change that
could keep her from breaking down. When after some hours spent in weary
watching she had seen her father fall asleep, she would steal out of
the house with Dash for a companion for a scamper round the meadows.
“How grateful I am,” she writes at this time, “to that great gracious
Providence who makes the most intense enjoyment the cheapest and the
commonest.”
Dr. Mitford died on the 11th day of December. He was buried by his
wife in Shinfield Church, being followed by an imposing procession of
neighbours and friends. We cannot help thinking that this was more to
show sympathy and respect for Miss Mitford than from special respect
to him.
That she loved her father dearly in spite of all his faults is very
certain, and that she was not blind to these faults is also certain.
But she looked upon them at all times very much in the same way as she
did when a young girl on hearing of his money losses. “Poor Papa!” she
would exclaim, “I am so sorry for him, I wish he would deal with honest
people.”
A beautiful expression of a dying mother to her children has been
handed down in our family, “Cover each other’s faults,” she said,
“with a mantle of love.” Miss Mitford did this and perhaps sometimes
unwisely, but her life was the happier for it. She never knew the
misery of condemning the conduct of her father.
“But her father was not the only person whom Miss Mitford egregiously
overestimated, and unconsciously flattered,” writes Mrs. Tindal.
“She looked upon her friends through rose-coloured spectacles, she
exaggerated their good gifts and multiplied their graces; she hoped and
believed great things of them.”
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