Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
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Memoir of Mary L. Ware, Wife of Henry Ware, Jr.
Hall, Edward B. (Edward Brooks)
Unitarians -- United States -- Biography; Ware, Mary L. (Mary Lovell), 1798-1849
It shows Mr. Ware's apprehensions in regard to his wife's health as well
as his own, that, in a letter to the same son, he writes: "I find that
your two parents are in very frail health, and probably destined to a
short life. You will perhaps, therefore, be left at an early age to take
care of yourself."
We learn still more of their mental and social life at this period from
two letters which Mrs. Ware wrote at the end of the years 1832 and 1833;
there having been little variety between, except a journey south as far
as Alexandria, which they took together, for recreation and health,
early in 1833, with a few later incidents referred to in the letters.
"_Cambridge, December 31, 1832._
"DEAR N----:
"F---- prophesied, ten years ago, that friendship between
married women could not be of long continuance. He did not know
that there is in woman's nature something which woman only can
fully understand; or his knowledge of human nature in general
would have shown him that the love of sympathy will triumph
over many an obstacle, which would be a perfect barrier to a
less powerful motive. Who but a woman, and one too who knows
the exact mould in which one's soul is fashioned, would
understand what it has been to me to stand on the verge of the
grave, in full possession of the whole intellectual being, and
prepare myself to leave such an assemblage of blessings as have
fallen to my lot,--husband, children, friends, and the
delightful duties which accompany these relations,--and then to
be restored to them all, with an added gift! And all without
one drawback, but my own want of sensibility, to make the
blessing as great as it would be with a more sensitive heart.
Perhaps no one can fully comprehend it who has not been placed
in exactly the same situation. But you can come nearer to it
than any one else, and you will not wonder that the past should
seem to me one of the most valuable years of my life. I have
often wished for just this experience, when I have felt how
ineffectual were the monitors of Providence in awakening that
deep sense of God's goodness, and that clear conviction of the
reality of a future state, which are so important to the
Christian life. I have almost envied those who were permitted
to approach so nearly to the gates of death as to give up all
expectation of a prolonged life. It has seemed as if this
appeal must be irresistible; as if there could be no more
deadness, or apathy, or indifference, after this. One _could_
not come back to the world and be absorbed as before in its
short-lived pursuits. But vain is the hope, I begin to fear, of
our being raised by any thing so much above the world, as not
to be subject to the power of the tempter while we live in it.
The physical weakness which enables us to realize the uncertain
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